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04-07-2009 06:27 AM

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I posted a blog yesterday and got a private message from someone on here asking me to remove the “profanity” in my post.

I am not sure if it is really that insulting to people, but if it is, I will remove it.

I am kind of a jokster at times and I was in “one of those moods” when I wrote that and didn’t think it was offensive. I have read and seen some pretty crazy/funny things on here that seem like they would be a little risky.

So, I guess my question is…..should I remove it? Is it offensive to the majority of people on here?

-- Robin, California

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#1 posted 04-07-2009 06:41 AM

I think another word would be a better choice. Personally, if it offended anyone, I would remove it…just my opinion, not the law.

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#2 posted 04-07-2009 06:52 AM


Unfortunately, you won’t be able to remove it. I try to live by the rule that whatever I write in cyberspace is going to be around for ever. You may not care today that you use profanity but who knows what you’ll think in 5 years, 10 years, etc. Another thing is that I know my children like this site and I know there are other young users whose parents don’t allow them to read profanity on the internet. ;2)

As for what the majority think, I don’t know. You will never know either. You’ll have to choose either way though.

-- Jim

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#3 posted 04-07-2009 07:41 AM

I had to reread you blog twice to find the alleged profanity. I think the complainent is being overly sensitive, but i guess even prudes use the internet. Maybe next time spell it s#$t.

-- if the hand is not working it is not a pure hand

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#4 posted 04-07-2009 07:50 AM

It’s a word that many of us have used, but it doesn’t make it any less offensive on a public type of forum. Because it is posted for others to view who may be quite sensitive, and young people who may not need encouragement to use this type of language uncensored, I would suggest refraining from using the actual word as suggested.

$^*% works sometimes. We have a sense of humor, but also a sense of dignity comes to call.

My 2 cents.

-- "They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night." ~ Edgar Allan Poe

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#5 posted 04-07-2009 08:53 AM

Hi Robbi

Probably not the best choice of words to use in the future but removing it from the sight is over reacting in my opinon. Apologise to the person and move on.

God Bless

-- Mc Bridge Cabinets, Iowa

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#6 posted 04-07-2009 09:41 AM

Hey here in germany, we use the american “profanity” because it is much more meaningfull with the less amount of syllables. The German language lacks these great, emotionally expressing, words and I think that people, eventhough, they are not in German to be used in say… a job interview or something, or with the boss, should not be too sensitive.

not wanting to start any wars between peoples, or meaning any offence but something needs to be said…

My mum always said, “you can judge the intelligence of one, or measure ones vocabulary, just by listening how many times he uses profanity in a sentence.”

I think that is a bit true, on the other hand:

Hey, I think people are too oversenstive…. come on… over here there is not any sort of peoblems when people use any of the so called “forbidden words” in america. It pretty common to make jokes of how you (in america and I am assuming someone in america took offence) cannnot show a breast or use these forbidden words, but its not a problem to have all kinds of violence and gore and whatnot on tele and in video games… here it is not completely forbidden, but very strictly regulated… and this reflects the culture, (in my opinion… and in my observation, it seems to me like “its ok to kill, and destroy, or let childeren see that stuff, but not ok to swear while doing it, or see naked body” )

That being said, each culture is different and each anyone who lives in a culture should not necessarily step outside the bounds set by thereof.

So I give advice like a diplomat today (not very definite): Step in line with your culture and be bordered by it, or not and risk critisisms (which you have said you have already recieved) and say what is on your mind, and express it with most efficiency possible!

I personally, would choose the latter, because I like efficiency!

-- Nicholas, Cabinet/Furniture Maker, Blue Hill, Maine

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#7 posted 04-07-2009 12:09 PM

Somwhere over 9000 members——there is no way you can avoid ticking off one of them sooner or later. You say you were “in a playfull mood”, well maybe that person was in a “cranky” mood that day. Don’t let it bug you too much, apologise, and try to use some other way to express yourself next time.
Personaly I have no problem with playfulness or your choice of words.


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#8 posted 04-07-2009 12:14 PM


Probably not the best choice of words, BUT, I have to admit, I’ve used that expression many times in my life with no intention of offending anyone.

On a lighter note, can you see the late and often irreverant Mr. George Carlin reading this thread and laughing his glutamus maximus off? (I hope you noted the politically correct terminology for his posterior.)

-- I love the smell of sawdust in the morning....

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#9 posted 04-07-2009 02:13 PM

I think this member overreacted in a ridiculous way. This is an open place and nobody forces him to read your blog posts if he doesn’t like the language you use… as well as neither he nor anybody else should force upon you his beliefs or manners.

I hate PC and think this hypocrisy is slowly killing our society by stiffening it. I see this profanity thing in the same way as the religious beliefs. Why do we atheists have to endure all the Scriptures references, versicle signatures and, sometimes, even whole posts here? Not a single day goes by without a bunch of them coming into my RSS feed. Still, I haven’t seen that many complaints against these… and that is good. I don’t like them but, when I do come across some of this stuff, I just skip it and look at another project/post. Never would it occur to me to tell the member to change the way he thinks, though.

Just be yourself and don’t worry about those little things. Somebody ticked enough by a single ”shit” as to write a complain needs to get a life anyways (and get rid of his TV set too).

PS: I agree with you FlWoodRat, too bad any of the great George Carlin or Lewis Carrol aren’t reading this, I’d love to read a reply from any of them. :oD

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#10 posted 04-07-2009 02:31 PM

I personally was not offended and had to read your blog twice to realize what the word was. Unfortunately it seems that we are are bound by the lowest common denominator meaning that whatever some sensitive person takes offence to becomes our limitations. I for one get pretty sick of this shit. Live and let live people….live and let live. Lets read the posts for the woodworking content and not as vocabulary police. By the way, is a tenon the male or female part of the joint? Oh yeah…..I was more offended by the word “Yadahoody”. I think it may be some subversive code word! I will take my leave now to look under some rocks for a new conspiracy.

-- Don, Pittsburgh

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#11 posted 04-07-2009 02:56 PM

No big deal. Some people have a keen sense of quakerism. It’s good to check someone who is outwardly very offensive not by a word here and there but by what they say to people that puts them down. But an occasional, shit, ass, damn, hell are not a big deal among adults. Or at least they shouldn’t be anyway.

Yes, the person overreacted and should save his private comment for something that really is offensive. Rare here though.

-- The smell of wood, coffee in the cup, the wife let's me do my thing, the lake is peaceful.

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#12 posted 04-07-2009 02:59 PM

Like others, I had to read twice to catch it. Was I personally offended? Not at all. We certainly use worse language in my workplace, and I post to a newsgroup where MUCH worse language is the accepted norm.

Having said that, I usually try to tailor my language to fit the surroundings. Since there seems to be a general consensus to keep this site family-oriented, I try to refrain from using any of George Carlin’s famous seven words.

Of course that doesn’t mean I won’t stoop to the occasional adult innuendo. :-)

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#13 posted 04-07-2009 03:33 PM

Oh Bother ! Is he at it again. He used to object in the open, and then became the true coward he is. He has taken it on to be the moral judge for us all. Although he is right because Martin did lay out some guide lines for us to follow. Your word was excitement on your part and nothing more. I sometimes use “S” and three dashes. This keeps our “busy body” happy.

I for one enjoy a little “excitement”. Email him back a big #$%^%$# !!!!!

P.S., Make him look at it every time he views your blog … Leave It!

-- Odie, Confucius say, "He who laughs at one's self is BUTT of joke". (my funny blog)

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#14 posted 04-07-2009 03:40 PM

Yadahooty! There I said it.

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#15 posted 04-07-2009 03:40 PM

I’m also sometime very playfull. Teasing and joking in my comment. I can take joke & tease, but how do I know others? It’s also risky isn’t it?
What can we say? People’s sensitivity is different. Just apologise, life has to go on anyway.

-- masrol, kuala lumpur, MY.

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