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Forum topic by RobH posted 03-18-2009 05:29 AM 1356 views 0 times favorited 9 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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03-18-2009 05:29 AM

Hello all,

I need help coming up with some ideas. A close friend of my wife and I passed away this morning after having won his fight against Hodgkins Lymphoma only to discover a short time later that he had colorectal cancer which would eventually claim his life.

We live far away from the family and cannot attend the memorial service. Of course we are lifting the family up in our prayers, but I feel this urge to get out in the shop and make something as a memorial to this wonderful man and father.

Could you please help me think of something I can do to memorialize this man that will be welcome by his family. If nothing comes to mind, I will just do nothing, but I feel assured that you ladies and gentlemen can help me out here.

Sorry for the sad tone.

Thanks for the help,

-- -- Rob Hix, King George, VA

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#1 posted 03-18-2009 05:48 AM

Maybe a mirror framed with etchings of a poem describing his life’s interests and loves. This would attract people to come to the mirror and then reflect on the loved one’s life of experiences.

-- "They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night." ~ Edgar Allan Poe

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#2 posted 03-18-2009 05:50 AM

Sorry for your loss. My idea would be a nice set of picture frames that they can use for favorite pictures. Maybe a shadow box that can be used for some of his favorite items.

-- "Our past judges our present." JFK - 1962; American Heritage Magazine

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#3 posted 03-18-2009 05:56 AM

I am sorry for your loss.

What is his lineage? Perhaps you can build a chest, with carved panels of patterns relating to his background, and incorporate a poem, or quote that fit him.

-- San Diego, CA

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#4 posted 03-18-2009 05:57 AM

Hi Rob, I’m sorry you have to go through these times. When my grandfather passed away my dad and I were standing together in front of the funeral pallor and a passer by stopped and said to us. “Did you loose someone in there? We looked at each other and looked back at him and my dad said “Yes My Dad”. With that he paused and said “Don’t worry he’s not in pain, he is at piece so don’t feel bad for him, give those who loved and knew him your sympathy and rejoice in his memory, It is you and them (he pointed at the open door) who need each other.
That happened 45 years ago and I never forgot the strangers words. God moves in mysterious ways Rob.
As for a memorial I think it would be appropriate to make picture frame and include a nice photo of happier times with him.
God be with you and comfort you.
Your friend Bob

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#5 posted 03-18-2009 05:58 AM

Rob,Sorry about your friend.  I want to offer a suggestion.

If he was in the military, he is due a burial flag, free.  The family has to request it – the funeral home can handle it.  I make triangular flag cases and have given those in lew of flowers, sometimes. In one case, I used wood recovered from a century old barn from his home county in TN. Beech used for the hay loft planks turned out beautiful (after a lot of milling). I attached the story about the wood and the family loved it. He was a long time woodworker.

The miters can be a challenge. I will be happy to share my plans.

-- Keith, NW Alabama

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#6 posted 03-18-2009 04:41 PM


Our sympathies for your loss.

Maybe a nice box, with a happy picture of him inlayed on the top, for his family to store his precious items.

Lew and Mimi

-- Lew- Time traveler. Purveyor of the Universe's finest custom rolling pins.

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#7 posted 03-18-2009 05:50 PM

I am sorry you lost a good friend…
I would say, the less utilitarian the object, the better…..What about a block of nice wood (sqaure) with some laser engraved message, like a plaque but in wood??

-- Nature is my manifestation of God. I go to nature every day for inspiration in the day's work. I follow in building the principles which nature has used in its domain" Frank Lloyd Wright

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#8 posted 05-01-2009 09:59 AM

I like the idea above about the shadow box but I would do it a little different. Contact family, friends, co-workers and ask them to send small items that could be mounted in the shadow box. The items should depict how your friend impacted their life in some way. It may take some work but it would be really cool for the family to have.

-- Behind the Bark is a lot of Heartwood----Charles, Centennial, CO

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#9 posted 05-01-2009 10:21 AM

Hi Rob
Sorry for the loss of your friend.
My sons wife recently lost her father and asked me if I could make an urn for his ashes and I had been saving a nice dry log of Laburnum for a rainy day which seemed appropriate for such an occasion. I made the body of the urn and showed it to her and she was so pleased with it it brought a lump to my throat and I knew I`d made the right choice (I`m still pondering the lid at the moment!). Maybe something along those lines ?. Not sure if cremation was used for your friend?

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