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07-11-2013 05:10 AM

I feel like I have to appoligize again for not being on here that much or commenting much on projects. I always look at the projects that come to my email, but don’t always comment. First of all my computer is so slow it’s a pain to do anything on here anymore. Good news is I’m getting a new computer. Should be here tomorrow. But then I’m leaving for the river for the next week. My last week off before I have to go back to work 7/22. Not looking forward to that at all. I can’t believe it’s almost over.
This summer has been lousy for me. Some of you might remember I’ve been hit hard over the past several years with, stuff. My brother Gary died in 07. My mother died 9 months later. My brother Danny died in 2010. Gary was only 48 and Danny was 54. We’ve been hanging on to my dad for the last 3 years and all he wanted to do was be with my mom. We tried our best to make him happy. He died in May. I can’t help feel that he is where he has been wanting to be since my mom passed and that makes me happy for him.
When my dad died my cabin was getting flooded at the same time. Just the lower half. That’s ok, I’m use to it. The new room addition didn’t get wet at all. My bathroom vanity I built held up! I just had to clean it up. In 08 we had a major flood when my mom died. I lost a diamond ring that year. I had the ring made with my moms 1st wedding ring from my dad. It was missing a diamond and I added a few more to it and had a ring made about 15 years ago and wore it ever since. Well, I was working at the river one weekend and I was pulling weeds and throwing them over the bank. That Monday back at home I noticed the ring was gone. I figured it went over the bank with the weeds. I look for it or think about it everytime I’m there, but I’m not crawling down a rock bank to look. There is no way I would find it there anyway. I just thought it probably slipped behind big rocks and would never see it again. A few weeks ago we burnt furniture that was in the flood. I went out there after it rained and started raking the gravel so you couldnt see a burnt spot on the ground. Things were too big to burn in the burn pit we have so I burnt things outside of the pit. I raked and raked and picked up every nail and screw I could find so nobody gets hurt or a flat tire. I told my husband what I was doing and that he might want to look again. He did and when he came in he told me to open my hand, of course I said, no, not knowing what he was going to put in my hand. He dropped my ring in my hand that had been missing for 5 years. It was full of mud but cleaned up just nice, like a new diamond! It was under the gravel, under the fire that we had burning all day, and it’s perfect. I can’t help think that my dad caused that flood that gave me my ring back. I miss him terribly but it comforts me to know he is where he wanted to be and I can see that smile on his face because he gave me my ring back.
Anyway, I hope to be able to get on here more often now and talk to everyone again. I can’t wait to get back into the work shop! Life needs to slow down for me. We are so close to getting our cabin done, but feel like we just took 3 steps back, again.

-- Janice

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#1 posted 07-11-2013 05:15 AM

Sorry to hear about your strife. That’s a lot to bear. Glad that the ring returned may peace come to you and your family.

-- Nature created it, I just assemble it.

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#2 posted 07-11-2013 05:32 AM

we people come and go
some softly some to a better place

diamonds are forever

they are outshined
by the love we feel
for our families

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#3 posted 07-11-2013 05:51 AM

I’m so sorry to hear of you losses and most challenging times. I think the ring was a sign that all is well with you past loved ones .They may seem lost but in the future the will come into focus unharmed like your ring. Glad to have you back I hope you get that shop time you want.

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#4 posted 07-11-2013 06:24 AM

Thanks guys. I don’t even know what to say. I didnt want this post to be sad. It’s a happy thing, sort of. My dad is where he wants to be and he gave me back my ring. I still can’t believe my husband put this in my hand.

-- Janice

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#5 posted 07-11-2013 10:23 AM

That is a sweet story, Janice. Our loved ones just might be watching, after all!

-- Support woodworking hand models. Buy me a sawstop.

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#6 posted 07-11-2013 10:34 AM

Great story Janice, I’m wondering if the flooding is a continuing problem why not lift the cabin up on piers? I know this is WAY EASIER SAID THAN DONE, but are you going to want to deal with the constant repairs every time it happens??

-- ***Pat*** Rookie woodworker looking for an education!!!

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#7 posted 07-11-2013 10:44 AM

Janice, I think we all know that everyday life takes precedence over this forum, though I want to thank you for sharing and your consideration for sharing with us your story, I am sadden to hear of your losses my prayers go out to you and your family also along with the traumatic events that have taken place in your life, I’m most happy though that your story has a happy ending with the new computer and the finding of the ring, look forward to seeing your post and projects in the near future.

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#8 posted 07-11-2013 12:15 PM

Sounds like you’ve had your share of life’s ups and downs, Janice, but I think it’s a great story nonetheless! I’m looking forward to seeing more posts from you once your new computer is up and running.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#9 posted 07-11-2013 12:50 PM

Sometimes just getting things out there is the best way to deal with grief and the curveballs life likes to throw at us. Know that you’ve got people here willing to listen and offer support. Woodworking kinship is strong.

Im really happy to hear that the ring made its way back to your finger. Think of it as the page being turned, a new lease, and burden lifted. Best of luck on the cabin restore. IMO its time to kick some a$$ and whip that place back into shape! Nothing feels better than a job well done. Keep after it Janice and best of luck.

-- Its not a crack, its a casting imperfection.

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#10 posted 07-11-2013 01:26 PM

How wonderful that your ring was found. I hope things improve for you and you keep strong.

-- ~Julie~

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#11 posted 07-11-2013 01:41 PM

Janice, I’m sorry about these rough places and bumps in your life but I believe it will all smooth over in the end one way or the other. Just keep your chin up and keep on plowing away toward your goals. I’m sorry about your losses and I hope that you will find strength in what remains behind.

helluvawreck aka Charles

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#12 posted 07-11-2013 01:52 PM

Really enjoyed your telling of your diamond ring story, thanks for sharing it. Wishing you the best and many happier days ahead.

-- Perfection is the difference between too much and not enough.

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#13 posted 07-11-2013 06:54 PM

So glad you found your ring! What an amazing story! Hope things are looking up! :)

-- Tim, Myrtle Beach, [email protected] Just one more tool, that's all I need! :)

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#14 posted 07-12-2013 01:12 AM

hey janice, just saw this post in my email, so good to hear from you , and im so happy you found your ring, its a beauty, i know you have had a tough go of it for the last few years, and i hope that life for you can slow up and give you a breather…..look forward to seeing you back here….gods blessings to you and your family…..grizz

-- GRIZZMAN ...[''''']

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#15 posted 07-12-2013 04:21 AM

Thanks to all of you. I do have to say it is always good to get on here and hear from everyone again. Thanks for all the nice comments.
Looking forward to my next project! Well, maybe it’s my next project. I need to build a railing for the top of the stairs inside the cabin, along the side opening so nobody falls off. Especially my pups that get pretty wild when they are chasing each other around the cabin.
This is going to be one of those projects my husband has to help me with because I have no idea how to install post onto a floor. Looking forward to doing this but it will probably be awhile before we can.

-- Janice

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