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Forum topic by NBeener posted 10-25-2012 04:22 PM 4655 views 0 times favorited 61 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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10-25-2012 04:22 PM

Hi, LumberJocks !!!

It’s been a while. I know.

I was hoping to update you all, and let you know that I’m settled … things are good … I’m setting up my new shop … and un-crating my SawStop.

Sadly, I can’t say that. Well … I COULD, but …. ;-)

The bulk of the legal stuff is behind me. I was convinced to take a plea agreement, largely because neither my wallet nor my health could likely have endured a trial, and … the penalty for failure … may have been prison.

For never having done anything wrong, or having broken any laws.

The amazing bionic lenses … that allowed me to live a more full life ….

I can’t wear, now. It’s been months and months. The eye doctors have thrown everything they can at reducing the inflammation in my eyes, but … no response.

Another issue has cropped up—called “conjunctivochalasis.” Essentially, the lower covering of my eyeballs … has bunched up like a pair of socks that have lost their elasticity. That COULD be ONE of the problems with the wear of my lenses.

There’s a surgery for that, but … along with its inherent risks … nobody can say that it will solve the problems, and … it automatically means another six-week, $12,000, painful trip to Boston, to try to make new lenses that WILL fit—something that just isn’t in me, now.

So … my armor is gone. The shields are down, Captain Kirk :-)

Picture waking up in a northern Minnesota winter’s day, naked. No way to find or make clothing. The world is a harsh and physically dangerous place, and … you’re not in any position to deal with it.

And … no lenses … means no woodworking. No way around that—at least, for now.

They’re telling me that … this Colorado climate (altitude and dryness) won’t work for me.

Air conditioned and heated environments … won’t work for me.

My current plan … is a huge Hail Mary pass. My retired cousin and I are thinking of heading down to Central America, in the early spring.

Maybe spend six months … in warm, tropical climates. Skip the a/c. Explore that part of the world. Maybe meet some woodworkers … recup some of the serious financial losses … and … de-stress.

My wife and I … separated, now, by 80 miles … don’t really talk about us, or the future. We’ll just see which way the winds take me/us.

The Court ordered a psychological evaluation. Once the psychologist verified, with my attorney, that everything I said was true, he was horrified. He also agreed that I’m now suffering from Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder … and … insomnia.

But it isn’t in me to chase down help for THAT, right now. I’m hoping that a TOTAL change of scenery … helps.

I still get FWW and “WOOD,” at my ratty little hotel, and … still think about projects, my shop, and y’all … a lot. A couple of days, I’ve helped my brother with things like building a shed. Kept my hands in the wood, at least a little.

My health has been pretty unsteady. I’m currently on steroids and a month of pretty serious antibiotics for skin and sinus infections—infections that pretty much haven’t released their grip, since all of this started.

I’ve learned something that … I already knew: the human spirit is amazingly strong, and amazingly resillient. When we tell ourselves that we CAN “stand it,” or CAN “take more,” ... I’m finding that … somehow … I can.

And, for now, that’s going to have to be enough.

Just know that I miss you all. I miss my craft. I miss the camraderie of my fellow LumberJocks.

Heck … I miss a LOT of things LOL !

I’ll try to pop in … at least once in a while. Promise.

All my best….

-- -- Neil

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Joe Lyddon

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#1 posted 10-25-2012 04:29 PM

GOOD to see you back!

I have not read your long post… yet…

Just had to say…

Welcome Back & hope you’re OK!

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OK, I’ve read it…

Well, Neil, you ARE ALIVE and kicking and thinking good thoughts!
It can always be worse…

I don’t know if you’re very religious… but… The Supreme Father (God) just may be the thing to turn to…
I know we’re not supposed to talk about it, but maybe through PM’s we could talk about it…(?)

I hope & pray that you can gradually get healed… one problem at a time, to eventually get better.

Here is a good website... after a little study and contacting the right people, it just MAY be what you’re wanting to happen to you. If I were you, I’d sure give it the ole college TRY… I have seen many strange problems get completely CURED as the result of treatments found from some of the people associated with this group… Read, if you can.. and study the website… I feel very positive that you could be helped…

Watch ALL of the Shows… See link tabs across the top area…
... start with the Last show… coming forward…

-- Have Fun! Joe Lyddon - Alta Loma, CA USA - Home: ... My Small Gallery:

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#2 posted 10-25-2012 04:30 PM

I am so sorry to read this. I pray for some kind of solution to your eye problems and some return normalcy.

-- Rich, Cedar Rapids, IA - I'm a woodworker. I don't create beauty, I reveal it.

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#3 posted 10-25-2012 04:30 PM

Holy crap Neil … i was honestly just digging through my old emails to see if i could find your address. Man, its good to hear from ya buddy. I hope that the worst is behind you now friend and you can move on with your life. You’ve once again found your sense of humor and thats wonderful. As always anything we / I can do for ya just holler. Take good care of yourself. BTW – the little guy in the avatar is mine, Nathan James, hes awesome.

-- Its not a crack, its a casting imperfection.

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#4 posted 10-25-2012 04:31 PM

attitude neil

that’s the ticket

good to hear from you again

old socks huh

here’s to some new sheer stockings for ya

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#5 posted 10-25-2012 04:33 PM

Thanks for the update Neil. Glad to see that you have at least settled the legal issues at hand.

-- HorizontalMike -- "Woodpeckers understand..."

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#6 posted 10-25-2012 04:35 PM

Good thoughts Neil
All The Best

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#7 posted 10-25-2012 04:36 PM

Good luck to you Neil. To badly quote FDR, “When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and just hang on.”


-- Dave; Lansing, Kansas

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Keith Fenton

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#8 posted 10-25-2012 04:51 PM

I’m glad you have come to give us an update and am glad to hear that you are feeling at least a little better. I truly hope you can find the peace you need to be able to get your affairs back in order and surely a little more peace of mind will help your body to recover as well.

Good luck in whatever road you choose. Be sure to come back and post when you have the time. We all would like to hear that you are doing well :)

-- Scroll saw patterns @

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#9 posted 10-25-2012 04:57 PM

All I can say is that I’m sending my best thoughts your way.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#10 posted 10-25-2012 05:09 PM

You’ve been through so much Neil. I’ve been thinking about you and also wish you all the best. Thank you for letting us, your friends know how things are going. It sounds like you still have a road ahead, but it also seems like you are approaching it with a clear head. That’s good. Take things one at a time, as they come to you. It is much easier to manage that way.

I wish you health, happiness and all the best for the future. Hang in there!


-- Designer/Artist/Teacher. Owner of Sheila Landry Designs ( Scroll saw, wood working and painting patterns and surfaces. "Knowledge is Power"

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Pete Jansen

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#11 posted 10-25-2012 05:25 PM

Hope the tropics are good you and you get your vision back. God’s speed brother.

-- Lovin' sawdust in beautiful Fort Collins, Colorado

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#12 posted 10-25-2012 05:32 PM

I hope things turn around for you soon..Karma will eventually work its way back around for you to the positive. All I can say is I feel for you my friend, and I hope that things get better for you as fast as possible..


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Monte Pittman

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#13 posted 10-25-2012 05:34 PM

Wish you the best. Have some ice cream and heal up.

-- Nature created it, I just assemble it.

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#14 posted 10-25-2012 05:41 PM

Good to see you back on LJ’s Neil.
Stay on the path, you will get back to where you want to be.

-- "It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so." - Mark Twain

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#15 posted 10-25-2012 06:28 PM

I must have missed Neil’s post about the onset of legal probs. Any help about a refferal?
I sure wish the NBeener all the very best. Sure seems like a Neil Bummer.

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