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Forum topic by newbiewoodworker posted 09-12-2011 11:51 PM 2373 views 0 times favorited 65 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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09-12-2011 11:51 PM

Today was supposed to be a normal school day. Wake up at 6:15, shower, get ready, and out the door within an hour.

I get to school, complete all of courses for the day.

Little did I know my father and grandfather were doing what they wanted to do for a while, having 2-of-3 of my cats euthanized. These cats were perfectly healthy. One did have the “early-onset old age bowel syndrome,” however other than that they were normal. I think they were gonna be 12 this year. Sweet sweet cats.

What pains me is I didn’t even get a chance to say goodbye.

More so I feel incredibly bad, because one of them I practically kicked across the room last night after it hopped on me, sinking its claws into my foot. The other wanted to go outside this morning, however being busy at the time i just ignored him.

Little did I know as soon as I went to school he was going to have them killed.

Even more upsetting is that when he told me what he did, he had a smile on his face, he was happy they were dead.

The only thing is, I have that benefit of being almost 17, so in another year and a bit, I can more far far away from him.

I am sorry, I need somewhere to vent. This has me at a loss for words/numb. Sad part is, I know he did it as a way to get back at me for not siding with him in this ongoing divorce between mother and father.

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#1 posted 09-13-2011 12:03 AM

I’m so sorry. That’s awful.

Being a lifelong cat owner, I can tell you that cats forgive all sorts of bumps and trips and such almost instantly. Your cats knew that you loved them.

Is the third one safe? Should you move it to your mom’s house?

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#2 posted 09-13-2011 12:12 AM

sorry for your loss speciel this way
once I had a dog that had to be send to the dog heaven by my ordre
but I cuoldn´t be there …...........never again I will do it with out being there


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#3 posted 09-13-2011 12:25 AM

Elizabeth: I think he knows that its in his best interest not to touch it, otherwise, not to poke fun at your comment Dennis, but I would be sending him to “Human Heaven”...

Thanks guys.

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#4 posted 09-13-2011 12:38 AM

terrible… just terrible… my heart goes out to you… animals love us unconditionally… people, on the other hand…sometimes “jerk” is just too nice a term for some of them.
Ghandi said “the gretness of a nation and it’s moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” Truer words were never spoken.

-- "Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." Voltaire

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#5 posted 09-13-2011 12:41 AM

That is truly awful. I can’t imagine any parent, whatever the circumstances, being so cruel. Are YOU safe?

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#6 posted 09-13-2011 12:43 AM

Ella: Thanks. Yes, Gandi was a wise man.
—Side note: Cape Cod huh, what part, if I may ask? I have family in Eastham.

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#7 posted 09-13-2011 12:45 AM

Pierce: That is also up in the wind… grandfather nearly broke my jaw in December, threatening me with a black eye if I didn’t stop fighting with my father. MY father has currently given me two psych evals, because I wouldn’t condone to his idiotic behavior(once after my mother called the cops on the day of that incident.) And I am constantly being told i am going to a Foster home… so yea, still up in the air on my safety. Not a boring life, huh?

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#8 posted 09-13-2011 01:14 AM

Sorry about your cats and the bad situation that you are in. Just hold on another year and you can walk out that door and never have to see them again. Is there any chance that you would be able to find another place to live? Under certain conditions, a court can rule you independent of your parents and give you the right to leave and go anywhere you want.

-- Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. -- Albert Einstein

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#9 posted 09-13-2011 01:27 AM

I don’t consider myself a cat lover, but that was a terrible thing to do. Stay safe, and good luck!!


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#10 posted 09-13-2011 01:32 AM

That royally sucks! Sorry to hear about your cats.

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#11 posted 09-13-2011 01:37 AM

Newbie, Hang tough buddy. I left home at 16 and never went back. I finished High School on my own working a swing shift job in the process. My home life was not safe at all. I met and married my wife at 18 and after 38 years it gets better every day. Some people are just not meant to have kids. Having said that you are getting to the age where you can start making your own decisions and if they do not want you It is your life to make it what you will. Go to school and get a education and keep working hard. You only need to believe in yourself for all the good things that will come your way. Life is not always fair but if you believe in yourself you will be amazed at what can happen. By the way sorry about your cats, the day I walked out was when I came home from school and my sperm donor had hung my dog from the cloths line for me to find.

-- I just don't understand. I have cut it 3 times and it is still to short.

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#12 posted 09-13-2011 01:37 AM

Its one of those situations Paris, where, Im between a rock and a hard place. I could always move back to just outside of Boston(Braintree to be specific,) with my mother. Trouble is, I would be leaving all of my friends behind, unfortunately.

Unfortunately also, when my father went into the divorce, he made sure to ensure I could never change my mind about living with him, by discrediting me(So I cant testify against his attrocities) though saying that I am, what essentially surmounted to, special needs. This can’t be far more from the truth. I do have a touch of Asperger’s, which essentially makes you socially awkward, however, its claimed that individuals such as Einstein, Jefferson, etc, had it in varying degrees too. However I function like everybody else. I wouldnt be taking a good chunk of honours and college courses(in highschool, called Early Enrollment) if I were special needs. My IQ falls somewhere I think around 115(they never truely gave us a number and said “this is your score” but that number sounds firmilar)(Online tests place me at 117, so its not entirely impossible,) so its not exactly that either. We are working on this however. I hope he dug a deep enough hole to bury him and his crazy family in.

We shall see.

Also, as to safety, this just dawned on me, earlier, he and I nearly got into a shouting match, because I simply asked him to not text while driving, particularly with me in the car. I said if he wants to kill himself, go ahead, by I still like my life, thanks. Moments later, a kid crossed the street 50 metres infront of the car, my father barely looked up… scary.

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#13 posted 09-13-2011 01:41 AM

Thanks guys.

Bubby: Unfortunately my father being a Cop in this town, he thinks he is above the law, and on a couple occasions threatened to blow their brains out with his service pistol; once threatening me too. That also means if I walk out he will have his buddies looking for me. Sorry to hear about the dog on the clothes line; At that point I would have practiced my line drives with the sperm donour. It wouldnt be golf balls either; no more kids though, lol…

-- "Ah, So your not really a newbie, but a I betterbie."

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#14 posted 09-13-2011 01:56 AM

Thats a horrible thing to do. I imagine it would be difficult for me not to use some woodworking tools on my father

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#15 posted 09-13-2011 01:59 AM

I can’t begin to tell you how mad that makes me, I can’t imagine how you feel. If I was in that situation, I would be the one calling social services for myself, looking to be put in a foster home. Just call them up and tell them that you fear for your life, especially after an incident like that… Let them squirm for a while under the scrutiny of family services.
At 16/17 you shouldn’t have to much trouble becoming an emancipated minor either, should you so choose.You might be surprised at the amount of programs available. You might find a lot of support through your local social service agencies, if you find the right people to talk to. being in the foster system is not all bad. there are benefits. You will be able to get a lot of financial help, should you wish to continue your education. As an emancipated minor you would be able to join the military service as well. Free room and board for a while until you get your act together.

Killing animals for no reason is a sign you should NOT ignore. I don’t think you will have any problem convincing a judge or social service worker into looking into this further.

-- “The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little.” ― Franklin D. Roosevelt

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