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Forum topic by Tedstor posted 08-13-2011 08:33 AM 2066 views 0 times favorited 35 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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08-13-2011 08:33 AM

I’m not sure why I’m posting this on LJ. I guess its just a highpoint in my life, but not something I can really share with my non-virtual friends/colleagues. But I feel really good about it, and wanted to pass it along. So…......
For the past three years, I’ve been one miserable bastage. It started off mildly enough, a little bit unhappy, somewhat tempermental, and occsioanal irrational anger. But things got worse and worse and feelings of anxiety, anger, irratibilty, and an overwhlming desire to be alone became the norm. To be clear, I never had any inclination to physically harm myself or others. But I did reach the point where I was NEVER happy. I rationlized my behavior as the results of sleep deprivation or the stress of having three small kids or some sort of delayed PTSD from my Marine service or several other things. Either way, I was circling the emotional drain and I was dragging my family down with me. My wife finally convinced me to seek help.

I never considered depression as a possible issue for me. I always thought depression was triggered by some tragic life event and/or afflicted soft-shelled weaklings. I also thought chronic sadness and sobbing were the telltale signs. When I told my doctor about my issues, he immediately suggested depression. Apparently my symptoms are commonly displayed by men with depression.

Long story short, I was prescribed an anti-depressant and it has worked wonders. My wife can’t believe the difference. I can’t either. I guess I didn’t realize how unhappy and miserable I was until I got the help i needed to find happiness again. My only regret is that I did not take care of things a long time ago. I think my ego refused to let me concede that I had a problem. In hindsight, it was pure stupidity. Three years of my life were complete crap, and they didn’t have to be.

Anyway, if anyone reading this can relate to my symptoms and has not looked into treatment…...........don’t be a moron like me. Get it taken care of. In most cases (such as mine), only a cheap prescription is necessary. Counseling and hospitalization are not typically required. And if you’re adverse to drugs, there are other options. St. John’s Wart is a herbal remedy often used in Europe with reportedly good results. It can be found in most drug/grocery/vitamin stores. Obviously, a medical professional should be consulted in any case.

I’ll leave it there. Thanks for listening.

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#1 posted 08-13-2011 02:15 PM

Thanks for sharing this and I’m glad that you are better. I know several people who have depression and everyone of them take a drug for it and the drugs work for them as well.

-- helluvawreck aka Charles,

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#2 posted 08-13-2011 02:19 PM

I’m glad you posted it, too. There shouldn’t be any stigma anymore about depression. The medications are Worlds better than they used to be. There’s an art to prescribing them and you need to have a doctor you trust. I would encourage anyone who’s not feeling quite right to go discuss it with a doc.

-- My dad and I built a 65 chev pick up.I killed trannys in that thing for some reason-Hog

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#3 posted 08-13-2011 02:43 PM

Glad you recognized a problem and took action. Welcome back to the land of the living!

-- Happiness is like wetting your pants...everyone can see it, but only you can feel the warmth....

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#4 posted 08-13-2011 03:03 PM

If anyone feels depressed or has a loved one that says you are depressed, then consult a doctor, depression is no good for you and sometimes you might not even know you have it.
At the start of my medical issues, before my first surgery, my doctor prescribed an antidepressant which puzzled me as I was one of those positive happy go lucky guys and did not think I needed anything like that. Well, my doctor was smart and looked ahead how I would be after surgery and other treatments along my medical nightmare journey, yes he knew that restrictions I would have to live with would “destroy” me, but the happy pills would take the edge off.
Not being able to do things you used to do every day and think nothing of it can really wipe you out, facing restricted living is a big fish to swallow, and if you don’t get some help it will destroy you.
Today I am not thrilled with being so “invalided”, but I can accept it because I am alive and soon I should be able to do more things that I want to do – getting to the shop and making something is my prime challenge, and I will make it.
Please, if you find that you seem to be “at odds with yourself” or have lost interest, then visit your doctor and talk about it. Depression can be made FAR easier to contain and you can get back to who you were very easily.

-- Roger-R, Republic of Texas. "Always look on the Bright Side of Life" - An eyeball to eyeball confrontation with a blind person is as complete waste of Time.

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#5 posted 08-13-2011 03:07 PM

Like Al said, there shouldn’t be a stigma attached to depression. It’s often a chemistry problem, just like diabetes. I’m just glad you got a medication that worked well and quickly for you. Some folks have to go through many combinations of drugs and dosages before they find relief.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#6 posted 08-13-2011 03:13 PM

Don’t feel like a complete moron. One of the major reasons men die of heart attacks is we don’t get help soon enough. We think we can just tough it out.

Glad you got the help you needed, and thanks for posting this. It’s an important message that needs to see the light of day.

-- John from Hampstead

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#7 posted 08-13-2011 03:18 PM

Good for having the courage to post this. Funny people don’t blink when you say you’re on meds for cholesterol but take on a completely different attitude when they hear depression, etc. Very sad.

-- Chris ~~Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past."

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#8 posted 08-13-2011 03:33 PM

Testor, I am glad to hear you are feeling better! Depression can suck the life out of you and everyone around you. It is very debilitating and effects too many people in our society! My brother has been dealing with depression for 30+ years. He was born with a hearing defect, teased all through school (F-ing kids…), and now is 41 and battles with it every day. He has tried medicine and sleeping pills, and it did take away the symptoms of depression, and made him sleep – which is exactly what the pills are supposed to do, but the pills did nothing for the underlying cause of the depression. The pills are there for one thing….to HIDE the symptoms, not fix the problem. So if you are fine with that, if you only want to hide the symptoms but not fix the problem, and be on pills the rest of your life, then you might as well stop reading right now, and thats ok, its your decision :) My brother started losing his energy, becoming lethargic, etc, etc because of the pills, and is now off them completely. I am not trying to tell you you made a bad decision by going to the doctor and getting pills. It takes a lot of courage to seek help, and it was definitely the right way to go in getting that help. I would encourage you though to seek other alternatives. Remember, the medical doctor did exactly what he was taught to do, and the only thing he knows how to do…..prescribe a pill.

I cringe when I hear people say what you said above…..”counseling is not needed, only a cheap prescription pill is all it takes.” The allopathic paradigm of popping pills has GOT to stop in this country. I know I sound like I am lecturing/yelling at you, and i’m sorry, i’m just very passionate about this. I promise I mean good. So to get to the point. I would love it if you looked up Dr. James Chestnut. He is a wellness (chiropractor) practitioner. I know what you think, what can a chiropractor do for depression??? Well he is WAY more than just a chiropractor. He is probably one of the smartest individuals I’ve EVER had the pleasure of meeting and hearing speak. He is involved and I believe the CEO of The Innate Lifestyle Program. He teaches other chiropractors other aspects of health other than just “cracking backs.” He goes around the world teaching chiro’s and laymen the true meaning and ways of becoming healthy – not only physically, but mentally. His three principals are Eat Well, Move Well, Think Well. He has 4 different seminars that he teaches all around the world. I have just went to the first one on Think Well. It BLEW MY MIND. I am convinced this seminar would change your life in a HUGE way. I am a chiropractic student, so the seminars are cheaper for me, and I am not sure of your cost. If I had to guess, i’d be around $200-300. Its an entire weekend though. Trust me…its worth it. It’d be good for your wife to go as well. I plan on going to all 4 of his seminars. You can also read his books. he has a book on each principal. The books are also AMAZING, but the seminars are truly life changing. Please look him up, check out some youtube videos on him, etc, etc. If you would like to PM me where you live, I can find out if there’ll be a seminar in your area any time. I am not affiliated with him at all, I just truly think he could change your life. Anyways, thanks for reading, sorry this was long. I truly wish the best for you and your family!

-- Hey you dang woodchucks, quit chucking my wood!!!!

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#9 posted 08-13-2011 06:07 PM

dakremer, I don’t even know where to begin in response to your post so I won’t.

Folks, I know this is basic common sense, but PLEASE DO NOT seek or take medical advice from anyone on an internet forum, especially one having nothing to do with medicine. This is not the place – and I mean the entire LJ website – to be peddling medical advice of any stripe. To do otherwise is irresponsible.

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#10 posted 08-13-2011 06:24 PM

Well said pierce85.

-- HorizontalMike -- "Woodpeckers understand..."

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#11 posted 08-13-2011 06:41 PM

I’m happy to take medical advise from Al…. : ^ )

-- We must guard our enthusiasm as we would our life - James Krenov

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#12 posted 08-13-2011 07:00 PM

No offense to Al but I would rather seek advice from someone in the correct field/specialty depending on the particular problem I was/am having. It is well known that medical doctors have biases related to their particular specialties. Choosing the correct “doctor” is important.

LOL ;-) Added after Wayne’s LOL!

-- HorizontalMike -- "Woodpeckers understand..."

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#13 posted 08-13-2011 07:15 PM

While it is no surprise to me that Pierce85 and horizontalMike spoke their opinions on this (especially opposing my own opinion), as i’ve had confrontations with both of them in the past. HorizontalMike went as far as trying to look up my personal information online and threatening me with it through PMs. It is sad that their personal grudges get in the way of someone actually trying to help out another human being. That being said..their responses only show their ignorance once more. I offered NO medical advice what so ever, and I was most definitely not “peddling” anything as Pierce eloquently put. I DO TOTALY agree you should not be taking medical advice from anyone on an internet forum, especially someone with no education on the matter what so ever. You probably shouldn’t be taking medical advice from most medical doctors actually, especially pharmacological advice – which they have very little knowledge on. I AM educated however. I have a 4 year bachelor degree in BioChemistry, and I am currently working on my Doctorate for Chiropractic.

Pierce I’d love to hear your opinion of what I said through a PM. I would love to hear your theory of Tedstor’s congenital drug deficiency, causing depression, requiring him to take drugs to fix it.

Tedstor: I sincerely hope whatever path you take helps you. When I offered my advice above, there was no underlying intentions of starting an argument or drama. So many people (too many) think the only pathway to a healthy happy life is through drugs. This simply is not the case. I was only trying to give you a different option, an option not many people know about, or take advantage of. That being said. It is 100% your choice. I will lose no sleep over what option you choose. i WILL however help you in any way that I can, and if you choose you can feel free to PM me about anything.

I am sorry if any of this has started any drama on your thread, which is supposed to be a healing/feel-good thread! I am very glad you decided to seek help with your problem and I wish all the best for you and your family!

-- Hey you dang woodchucks, quit chucking my wood!!!!

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#14 posted 08-13-2011 07:17 PM

Lol – I am assuming he would tell me to see the right doctor. : ^ ) I was just giving him props for being a doctor. I was just trying to lighten things up some.

-- We must guard our enthusiasm as we would our life - James Krenov

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#15 posted 08-13-2011 07:27 PM

The only PMs I sent you told you to FIX your profile if you were so worried about your privacy that you felt the need to lie about things IN your profile. I pointed out the holes in your profile/postings and that offended your sense of well being. I told you that I would not share those items that make you vulnerable, and I have NOT shared them. So much for doing YOU any favors. While I want to believe your heart is in the right place, you surely are misguided in your actions and thoughts.

Pierce, IMO, don’t take Daniel’s bait. What can be said, can be said in the open. This gentleman has issues…

-- HorizontalMike -- "Woodpeckers understand..."

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