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03-08-2018 07:42 PM

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Earlier today I was chatting with an Amazon rep named Sheetal and I was called “dear” (exact statement was “That’s ok dear, we have a copy of the emails that we send you”). I was offended by the use of the term “dear”. I feel that it is totally inappropriate for any company representative, regardless of their gender, to call a customer, regardless of the customer’s gender, “dear”.

I contacted Amazon corporate headquarters and explained my view. I was assured that they would open an investigation, but no apology was offered.

If this had happened to you would you feel disrespected? Sexually harassed? or ???

Should it matter what the genders of the individuals (corporate rep, customer) are?

Anyone have any idea what gender Sheetal is? What nationality it is?

—Jesse, Saint Louis, Missouri

-- Jesse, Saint Louis, Missouri


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#1 posted 03-08-2018 07:46 PM

... really?

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000

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#2 posted 03-08-2018 07:49 PM

Wouldn’t even come close to being an issue for me.
Some people are just friendly,
but thanks to people like you they’re getting to be less and less of those people.

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#3 posted 03-08-2018 07:51 PM

If this had happened to you would you feel disrespected? Sexually harassed? or ???
- Jesse

Not in the least.

but thanks to people like you they’re getting to be less and less of those people.
- jbay

Exactly :)

Cheers,
Brad

-- Brad in FL - In Dog I trust... everything else is questionable

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#4 posted 03-08-2018 07:53 PM

Brad… I do believe you have just misquoted me. Please consider an edit of your post. Thanks!

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#5 posted 03-08-2018 07:54 PM

Brad… I do believe you have just misquoted me. Please consider an edit of your post. Thanks!
- Ron Aylor

Caught and fixed as you were typing :)

Cheers,
Brad

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#6 posted 03-08-2018 07:55 PM


... Some people are just friendly, but thanks to people like you [there’s] getting to be less and less of those people.

- jbay

I agree!

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#7 posted 03-08-2018 07:56 PM

You don’t know if you’re offended without looking for consensus first?

-- Einstein: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." I'm Poopiekat!!

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#8 posted 03-08-2018 07:57 PM



Caught and fixed as you were typing :)

Cheers,
Brad

- MrUnix

Thanks, Brad!

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#9 posted 03-08-2018 08:00 PM

“Anyone have any idea what gender Sheetal is? What nationality it is?” Sounds like your looking for support for a non issue and your question calls your motivations into question. Get over it.

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#10 posted 03-08-2018 08:16 PM

More P.C. bull! I would venture to say the problem is yourself not the Rep.?

-- Lifting one end of the plank.

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#11 posted 03-08-2018 08:21 PM

Sorry, you’re not protected from feeling offended.

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#12 posted 03-08-2018 08:24 PM

”If this had happened to you would you feel disrespected? Sexually harassed?”

no – not in the least

when you fall South of the Mason Dixon line, “Hon” or “Honey” is the norm
for a female to address a total stranger in a relaxed professional setting.
I have noticed that women from Africa, India and some Caribbean countries
often use the tern “Dear” in any kind of setting.
Mr. Tutt, you are wound a little too tight over this – take it with a grain of salt and move on.

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#13 posted 03-08-2018 08:34 PM


I was offended by the use of the term “dear”.
- JesseTutt

Jesse, baby, sweetie, darlin’. Get over yourself, angel.

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#14 posted 03-08-2018 08:57 PM

Maybe you misunderstood and she was calling you a “deer”

-- Rick M, http://thewoodknack.blogspot.com/

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#15 posted 03-08-2018 09:01 PM

After an extensive Internet search I have learned that, Sheetal (Hindi : शीतल) is a Hindu/Sanskrit Indian name. Further research leads me to believe that the word dear  is an ancient Sanskrit word, dating to the second millennium BCE, and depending on inflection could mean old curmudgeon.

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