My wife didn't bring any hand tools to the marriage, but is pretty good when it comes to recognizing what's important to me and responding accordingly. It helps that her mother has been a living exhibit on what not to say, albeit in a very mild way. Show her a project that means the world / is the latest accomplishment, and if she doesn't like it, will say, "Now, is it going to stay like that?"
She's done it often enough that my wife has picked up what to say. Thinks like, 'looks good,' and 'lots of work in that,' and 'how does it work / how you gonna use it?' My charming and beautiful wife is a keeper.