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As some of you that follow my forum posts know, I am active on multiple forums, and have over the past what has it been over a decade and a half, made friendships online with a good number of you.
This post is for you. So if you are coming to this without any of the history it might not make sense, but I don't have the time to dive back into a full detailed history...
As you know 2018 was what I thought the absolute worst year of my life, losing my Dad, and my Father in Law, along with 18 other friends and family members, my wife being hospitalized for a total of 2 months during that time due to the stress. And my posts just sort of fell off a cliff.
Sometimes you just don't feel like writing, but I was getting back to myself, and started picking things back up, posting more, getting out to my neglected shop more and working on cleanup and doing projects.
We were full on, the master suite was torn out, we were redoing the closets as the supports for the closet rod on my side had failed, apparently the rocket scientist builders decided closet rods should be secured to nothing but drywall, and so when it failed it took drywall with it, and we were ripping out 1984, 1992, and 2000 layers of wallpaper from the master bath... Everything was on a roll, a lot of stops and starts to it.
Professionally my contract with one of the oil majors had ended, I had taken a job out of necessity that was at a rather insulting rate of pay, that did not last but 2 months, and I am glad I am out of that place... At least there were benefits, and I had signed up for as much as I could get out of it. That job ended on July 5.
My wife had likewise just started a new job, with an incredibly fascinating company, fully remote, work from home kind of thing, full benefits, The whole shebang. Again forward progress.
On July 18, about halfway through the day, she started feeling badly It looked like maybe the flu, possibly COVID, she being a type 2 diabetic took her sugars and it looked good, she did a Telehealth visit, no fever, sugars good, just nausea, some coughing and body aches. So they told us to get her in for a COVID test. This was already after hours by then. So COVID test in the morning it was.
When morning came, she was out of it. She had me call in sick for her. I was concerned, so I ended up taking her sugars for her.
Somehow, overnight, her sugars went from 110, to if I recall correctly 534 or so.
I rushed her to the ER at the best hospital near me. They did all they could.
But by 5:40 PM, on the 19th of July, my beautiful bride was no longer with me.
The ER and ICU doc said it was an infection that hit her liver, that caused it to flush all the glucose it was holding into her blood stream. Once it started doing that, there was basically no going back...
I have been so out of it, but I had to find work, which I did, and it has been 6 months yesterday since my world got turned upside down and inside out. I am still trying to deal with all of the myriad issues, her retirement packages and accounts etc... get them moved to me and closed etc...
So for those of you that wondered what happened, why I disappeared again this past summer, now you know.
I will be posting again in the future God willing, but this is different.
Much of the product of my shop previously was projects she wanted or needed done, now, it is entirely on me. I am not sure what to do with myself now. I guess I will figure it out, but... it will take time.
The big take away I hope everyone gets from this post is this. If you still have those that love you around, don't waste time, enjoy what time you can with them. You never know when that time will be over.
This post is for you. So if you are coming to this without any of the history it might not make sense, but I don't have the time to dive back into a full detailed history...
As you know 2018 was what I thought the absolute worst year of my life, losing my Dad, and my Father in Law, along with 18 other friends and family members, my wife being hospitalized for a total of 2 months during that time due to the stress. And my posts just sort of fell off a cliff.
Sometimes you just don't feel like writing, but I was getting back to myself, and started picking things back up, posting more, getting out to my neglected shop more and working on cleanup and doing projects.
We were full on, the master suite was torn out, we were redoing the closets as the supports for the closet rod on my side had failed, apparently the rocket scientist builders decided closet rods should be secured to nothing but drywall, and so when it failed it took drywall with it, and we were ripping out 1984, 1992, and 2000 layers of wallpaper from the master bath... Everything was on a roll, a lot of stops and starts to it.
Professionally my contract with one of the oil majors had ended, I had taken a job out of necessity that was at a rather insulting rate of pay, that did not last but 2 months, and I am glad I am out of that place... At least there were benefits, and I had signed up for as much as I could get out of it. That job ended on July 5.
My wife had likewise just started a new job, with an incredibly fascinating company, fully remote, work from home kind of thing, full benefits, The whole shebang. Again forward progress.
On July 18, about halfway through the day, she started feeling badly It looked like maybe the flu, possibly COVID, she being a type 2 diabetic took her sugars and it looked good, she did a Telehealth visit, no fever, sugars good, just nausea, some coughing and body aches. So they told us to get her in for a COVID test. This was already after hours by then. So COVID test in the morning it was.
When morning came, she was out of it. She had me call in sick for her. I was concerned, so I ended up taking her sugars for her.
Somehow, overnight, her sugars went from 110, to if I recall correctly 534 or so.
I rushed her to the ER at the best hospital near me. They did all they could.
But by 5:40 PM, on the 19th of July, my beautiful bride was no longer with me.
The ER and ICU doc said it was an infection that hit her liver, that caused it to flush all the glucose it was holding into her blood stream. Once it started doing that, there was basically no going back...
I have been so out of it, but I had to find work, which I did, and it has been 6 months yesterday since my world got turned upside down and inside out. I am still trying to deal with all of the myriad issues, her retirement packages and accounts etc... get them moved to me and closed etc...
So for those of you that wondered what happened, why I disappeared again this past summer, now you know.
I will be posting again in the future God willing, but this is different.
Much of the product of my shop previously was projects she wanted or needed done, now, it is entirely on me. I am not sure what to do with myself now. I guess I will figure it out, but... it will take time.
The big take away I hope everyone gets from this post is this. If you still have those that love you around, don't waste time, enjoy what time you can with them. You never know when that time will be over.
