help! keep gouging red oak with low angle plane

i read that planing with the grain helps prevent tear out (makes sense), and i lined up all the pieces to a red oak desk top with what i thought was grain all going in the same direction. glued up the top and it looked beautiful. everything was going great until…

i was using my hand plane and i gouged the top.

new low angle sweetheart plane (my mother's day gift), sharpened with my scary sharp system. worked beautifully until i guess the grain changed direction in one piece. wouldn't you know it, the gouge is smack dab in the center :/

i also notice a small tear out in a red oak leg i was routing with a round over bit.

any help or advice? i need to put a chamfer edge on the desk top and REALLY don't want to try and fix another tear out.