My brother

  • Advertise with us
Blog entry by janice posted 08-30-2010 05:01 AM 2334 reads 0 times favorited 51 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Oh, how my heart weeps, though I know in God’s arms he sleeps;
So many things we don’t understand; so always remember it’s in His hands.
So blessed to have you in my life; no longer will you have discomfort or strife;
Peace and comfort to your wife and son; I love you Danny Boy, you were the one.

My cousin posted this on Facebook. This is about my brother. I lost another one last Friday night to illness. Three years ago my brother Gary died at 48 from a massive heart attack. 10 months later my mom was found on the bathroom floor dead. Her heart just stopped. She was very depressed after Gary died. And now this.

Danny was my oldest brother, only 54. All kinds of complications, but the bottom line is he died of ARDS. Acute Respitory Distressed Syndrom. They called 911. By the time they got there he was in a comma. He was in there for 9 days and never woke up. He was my brother that taught me and helped me with woodworking. And the one that would have been mad at me for posting his boat he built on this site. He built his cabin which is right next door to mine 28 years ago. He died Friday night and I went to the river Saturday morning. I think he beat me there. I know he was there with me, that’s why I went. He’ll always be there with me. I look over at his cabin and it is just a big as life. Can’t explain it, but I see him when I see his cabin. I’m gonna miss him terribly.

My dad is 80 and has buried his wife and now two sons in the past three years. This is so hard on all of us. I love this site and havent posted much lately. I really havent been doing much of anything. I need to get my life back. Way to much going on. I hardly ever post blogs, maybe because I’m more of a private person but I felt like sharing this tonight. I really miss my brother.

-- Janice

51 comments so far

View CharlieM1958's profile


16292 posts in 5226 days

#1 posted 08-30-2010 05:19 AM

Janice, I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. I know how something like the river can bind souls together. Take comfort in the knowledge that he will always be there with you.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

View BarbS's profile


2434 posts in 5093 days

#2 posted 08-30-2010 05:35 AM

Oh Janice.. I can’t imagine. Be patient with yourself. Please don’t be in a hurry to get past this and get your life back. You need time to pull all those memories together, and wind them up in a tight ball and put them somewhere he would approve of. I’m sorry you are going through so much pain. You were right to tell your on-line family here. I’ll be thinking of you, so check back in and let us know how you are.


View HerbC's profile


1819 posts in 3867 days

#3 posted 08-30-2010 05:50 AM


I’m sorry to hear of the loss of your brothers and your mother. I know each passing seems to hurt even more than you can bear. My prayers are with you and your family in this dark moment. May the Lord wrap his arms around you and comfort you.


-- Herb, Florida - Here's why I close most messages with "Be Careful!"

View lightweightladylefty's profile


3606 posts in 4720 days

#4 posted 08-30-2010 06:01 AM


My sincerest condolences to you and your family. Losing loved ones is never easy and at such a young age it is even harder.

I’m praying for you.


-- “Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety.” Benjamin Franklin -- Jesus is the ONLY reason for ANY season.

View TopamaxSurvivor's profile


20251 posts in 4684 days

#5 posted 08-30-2010 06:03 AM

Deepest condolences to you and your’s, especially your dad.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

View GrandmaT's profile


46 posts in 4535 days

#6 posted 08-30-2010 06:04 AM


Haven’t been here or on GT in ages; but when I got your message about the passing of your brother I had to write. I hurt for you … let yourself grieve; give yourself time. I know you will find a special place within yourself to store all the wonderful memories you have of your brother … know your brother now lives within your heart, memories and words. Even though you would rather have him here with you, God will take good care of him. I hope the knowledge of that does or will in time bring you comfort.

Take care …

-- Adding to Hubby's "Honey Do List" :-)

View twokidsnosleep's profile


1130 posts in 3981 days

#7 posted 08-30-2010 06:20 AM

Sorry for your losses.
Best wishes

-- Scott "Some days you are the big dog, some days you are the fire hydrant"

View Max's profile


56000 posts in 5281 days

#8 posted 08-30-2010 06:24 AM


I am so sorry to hear of your losses and offer my condolences. I always try and remember that “Those we love never dye, they are always in our hearts and thoughts”.

-- Max "Desperado", Salt Lake City, UT

View Bob Kollman's profile

Bob Kollman

1798 posts in 4199 days

#9 posted 08-30-2010 06:52 AM


My condolences to you and your father. As a word of comfort I offer you this:

The Lord says, “Do not be affraid. I will up hold you with the right hand

of My love, and when you pass thru the water, I will be with you.”

Janice, these are words I truly believe, God Bless.

-- Bob Kenosha Wi.

View Bearpie's profile


2601 posts in 4026 days

#10 posted 08-30-2010 08:05 AM

Janice, You have my sincere condolences on your losses and may God bless you and watch over you and your family during this time of bereavement.

Erwin, Jacksonville, FL

-- Erwin, Jacksonville, FL

View Cher's profile


965 posts in 4101 days

#11 posted 08-30-2010 10:06 AM

Hi Janice, I am so very sorry for your loss, my deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I know this is a very difficult time for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers
Love and God Bless you and your family.

-- When you know better you do better.

View tdv's profile


1203 posts in 4078 days

#12 posted 08-30-2010 10:22 AM

Janice I am so sorry for your loss but I believe the spirit that gave life to your brother lives in you so you can never be truly seperated. As you mentioned your brother helped & taught you & guided you, you look at the cabin & feel his presence in the same way when you are doing the things he taught you you will remember how it was to have him there. In sharing a part of your life he took a piece of you but he filled the gap with a piece of himself. He will never leave you
God bless you & your Dad you are in our prayers.

-- God created wood that we may create. Trevor East Yorkshire UK

View HarleySoftailDeuce's profile


320 posts in 4427 days

#13 posted 08-30-2010 11:19 AM

I too am sorry for your loss. You and your family will also be in my prayers.


-- Paul, Bristol,Rhode Island

View Dennisgrosen's profile


10880 posts in 4123 days

#14 posted 08-30-2010 11:58 AM

Janice I´m sorry for your losses
and send you my deepest condolences
to you and your father

best thoughts

View ellen35's profile


2749 posts in 4440 days

#15 posted 08-30-2010 12:37 PM

so sorry for the many losses you have endured recently. There is nothing one can say at a time like this except we are all thinking of you here at LJ and hoping that you are doing OK. You clearly have some wonderful memories of your brothers and your mother. Cherish and honor them by being the kind of person who would make them all proud. And… spend time at the river.

-- "Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." Voltaire

showing 1 through 15 of 51 comments

Have your say...

You must be signed in to post the comments.

DISCLAIMER: Any posts on LJ are posted by individuals acting in their own right and do not necessarily reflect the views of LJ. LJ will not be held liable for the actions of any user.

Latest Projects | Latest Blog Entries | Latest Forum Topics