Thoughts about the most influential woman in my life

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Blog entry by Don Butler posted 05-07-2009 04:00 PM 1063 reads 0 times favorited 8 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Throughout our lives we meet many women who influence our lives in a positive way. This support has helped us become the people we are today, with the skills, passions, and creativity that are displayed in our woodworking projects. Who are the women in your life who have been there for you along your path?

The words above appeared in our latest newsletter, May 7, 2009, and it set me to thinking.

The one woman who has had the greatest, best influence and the one who’s been there all along the way is my dear one, my partner for life, the one who matters the most, Marge, my wife of 48 years.

I’m not the completely self motivated sort. I tend to respond to challenges. I don’t necessarily mean the life-altering disasters that change your course forever. I mean the sort of thing like, “Hon, I think it would be nice if we had a real library in this room. What do you think?”

Now, I do like it when SWBMT (She Who Buys Me Tools) asks right out: “Would you build me a cabinet for my sewing machine?”

But the sort of sideways, almost not directed to me, sly sort of inference seems to get my attention. We guys sometimes fail to listen at all times. Of course, our lovely wives ALWAYS pay attention to what we say!

So, she has provided some of the greatest incentives in my whole life, to reach out for greater accomplishments, to acquire greater skill, to learn new things, to be a better person.

And I’m grateful beyond words.

Now, she doesn’t push, nag or demand. That’s not the sort of thing that inspires me. In fact she’s been known to wait for literally years for something. And when I finally get to it she never says, “Well! It’s about time!”, even though she’d be perfectly justified.
That’s nice, isn’t it?

So in response to the question above, I say without hesitation, only one woman qualifies.
My sweetheart, Marjorie.

Here’s to you my love!

With all my heart,

-- No trees were damaged in posting this message, but thousands of electrons were seriously inconvenienced.

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#1 posted 05-07-2009 04:09 PM

50 % of my projects are for my wife … do I need to say more?

-- All bleeding will eventually stop.

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Scott Bryan

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#2 posted 05-07-2009 04:26 PM

This is a nice post, Don. This is a wonderful tribute to your wife, who rightfully deserves all the accolades that you can give her. My best to you and Marjorie. It sounds like you are a wonderfully matched couple.

-- Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful- Joshua Marine

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#3 posted 05-07-2009 05:02 PM

I really enjoy people who give so much credit to there wives . my wife is still the light of my life after 42 years.


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Craftsman on the lake

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#4 posted 05-07-2009 05:20 PM

Same here. I’ve got one of those. 29 years for us. Can’t imagine breathing without her.

-- The smell of wood, coffee in the cup, the wife let's me do my thing, the lake is peaceful.

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#5 posted 05-07-2009 06:47 PM

“The four basic conditions of happiness are:
life in the open air,
the love of a woman,
detachment from all ambition,
and the creation of a new Beauty”

Edgar Allan Poe

-- Nature is my manifestation of God. I go to nature every day for inspiration in the day's work. I follow in building the principles which nature has used in its domain" Frank Lloyd Wright

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#6 posted 05-26-2009 08:12 PM

what a wonderful blog entry!!

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (, Young Living Wellness )

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#7 posted 05-26-2009 08:15 PM

38 years this august for me thats 38 wonderful years too and I’m still crazy after all these years.Alistair

-- excuse my typing as I have a form of parkinsons disease

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Don Butler

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#8 posted 05-26-2009 09:58 PM

Here’s how good she is:

This week is our anniversary (5/27/61) and here’s why I call here SWBMT. My gift from her was a new Grizzly bandsaw!

BTW, She’s getting some jewelry she’s wanted for quite a while.


-- No trees were damaged in posting this message, but thousands of electrons were seriously inconvenienced.

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