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Dave Talks #17: After a long hiatus. I am back. The story behind my absence...

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Blog entry by dbhost posted 11-16-2021 09:44 PM 1084 reads 0 times favorited 7 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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Long time Lumberjocks may have noted that I more or less fell off the face of the earth toward the end of 2017 / beginning of 2018 without much of an explanation. For those of you that are on my friends list. Sorry about that, and let me explain…

I did n’t put out family business but in late 2015, my brother in law was diagnosed with Stage IV Colon cancer, and my father in law was slipping into deep dementia, as in try to keep him from stripping down naked and running into traffic Dementia. There was a tremendous amount of caregiving my wife and I both were doing, along with the extended family issues that come along with it, and the inevitable planning.

To say our stress level was high would be like saying Liquid Nitrogen is kind of cool.

In mid 2017 our 20 year old cat passed away. My wifes job was dumping undue pressure on her that we found out later was inspired by my ex wife. Long story, no time there, small world people know people stupid sht…

Then in 2018 it started. In the course of that year, we both lost our dads, her brother passed away, the 2nd friend I introduced her to while we were dating took his life, one of our neices lost her life to liver disease, all told we lost 20 friends and family in the span of 12 months. There were repeated hospitalizations for stress related disorders, and to top it off, my wife lost her job, and my job cut my salary while telling me to be happy we all still have jobs…

I busted my a* to try to keep up with the finances, but long story short, I have become the sole income earner in the house, and have had to take my 18 year job and tell them quite succinctly that my skill set belongs with those willing to pay for it. And left…

We’ve been turning ourselves upside down and inside out to complete what we can with our home remodel, and it is coming along nicely although at this point I need an actual contractor to shore up foundation, and replace siding with Hardipanel

I have had minimal workshop time, and am literally just now getting back in and cleaning up the mess my wife made by just dumping everything she didn’t know where it went into the garage workshop.

A friend is in a new job, where his company receives shipments of material on large 12×4 pallets, and they are not taken back to the shipper so they just tooss them. I have been collecting the pallets, and got a pallet buster from Amazon, which is allowing me to disassemble the pallets,

The plan is to make up a mess of “engineered lumber” such that I can build a 12×16 shed for a workshop.

I need to work with the city code office, but so far, as long as it is under 200sq ft and not on a poured cement fondation, but rather skids on footer blocks, the city considers it a portable building, and no permits are needed. The limit though is 200sq / ft, and a peak height of 10’. which I can easily manage.

To get everything I need into the new shop, and mind you, my automotive tools stay in the garage, I am needing to downsize some things, or maximize space usage. I.E. instead of the funky space wasting floppy metal lathe stand, I am building a ballast / storage lathe bench. And I am considering either chopping down the column on my drill press, or building a storage cabinet that sits over the mobile base of the drill press, allowing me to ue it to stow my hand drills and drilling accessories.

I have had several projects, but they are not scratch builds, over the last couple of years.

Several of my neighbors ended up with some very nice furniture pieces that suffered some hardware, or finish damage over the years. And ended up putting them out with the heavy trash.

Sadly these pieces are EXACTLY in the style I like.

So they came back to my shop, and went in, got refinished, new hardware installed, and some minor modifications.

So at this point, I have a 1980s vanity / dresser with a pull out tray that I refinished in Dark Walnut, and a reasonably matching 1950s wall mirror, in the guest room, along with a monitor, keyboard, and mouse for my wfies laptop.

We have a 1950s, the neighbors grandfather built it, and when they threw it out it was coming unglued, HiFi cabinet complete with LP storage compartment, Reglued, and refinished with more of that Dark Walnut, it is now doing duty as a cat food storage. The Vittles vault for the dry foot fits in the LP compartment, and the canned wet food and other misc supplies are in the other compartments.

We also sourced up a large roling kitchen island that I am doing a refin on now. I need hinges for the drop down side wings, and I am debating on do I put glides or casters on it?

Anyway, that is where I have been, what I have been, and am planning on being up to… Hope all is well with everyone…

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NoWhiskeyWoodworking

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#1 posted 11-17-2021 12:59 PM

Though I don’t know you (and have only been on LJ a few months) I read this from start to finish. It’s overwhelming what life can throw at us and, more heartening still, it’s amazing what we can persevere through… and still want to create.

I hope the new shed/workshop proceeds nicely and gives you a valued space.

I hope too that you and your wife get a period of peace… sounds like you need and deserve it.

Sorry for all of your losses.

-- Van "If you're looking for perfection, don't look here."

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dbhost

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#2 posted 11-17-2021 02:46 PM

Thanks.

Honestly this was teetering into some dark territory. I more or less stopped woodworking, I stopped playing music (I play guitar and bass).

I am doing shop cleanup / downsizing to get into the shed. The idea is to free up the garage I have been working out of for years.

I honestly need the space. Just a place for me.

-- Please like and subscribe to my YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/daves-workshop

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Dark_Lightning

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#3 posted 11-17-2021 03:37 PM

Man that was a tough time! Glad you pulled through all that. Good luck with the new shop.

-- Steven.......Random Orbital Nailer

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#4 posted 11-17-2021 05:11 PM

So while sorting through the junk in my shop, doing some HEAVY cleanup, I found the Swiss Army knife my Dad gave me for my 18th birthday. Actually have gave me 2 of them. The Junior, that he wanted me to keep in my glovebox. Which it stayed there for 20+ years, my wife moved it sadly… And the Camper. Which is still missing, that is supposed to be in my backpack.

Hope I can find the camper. It was a great little knife.

More importantly, great memories. He was sending me off out of state to Az for college, and the Camper was something I used in my old hiking backpack for years. Before my car crash…

If I ever find it, it goes in my Coleman Suitcase stove so I always have it on camping trips…

That knife was used on many camping trips with my folks, admittedly Dad and I have a different idea of camping. His involved a class C motorhome. Mine involves an ultralight backpack… Although lately I have moved up to Cabin tents and such…

And we continue to move forward…

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#5 posted 11-18-2021 02:38 AM

We have some things in common. I play bass as well. I also do my woodworking out of my garage.

Stay strong, brother!


Thanks.

Honestly this was teetering into some dark territory. I more or less stopped woodworking, I stopped playing music (I play guitar and bass).

I am doing shop cleanup / downsizing to get into the shed. The idea is to free up the garage I have been working out of for years.

I honestly need the space. Just a place for me.

- dbhost


-- Van "If you're looking for perfection, don't look here."

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#6 posted 11-18-2021 04:59 PM

Amazing, so glad you hammered through it all. I can’t imagine. Hopefully the return to more shop time in a new shop brings you some new normal, new happiness, new peace.
-Steve
edit: just noticed you’re in League City. We’re “neighbors”, I’m in Pearland.

-- Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands. 1Thessolonians4:11

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#7 posted 11-18-2021 05:53 PM



Amazing, so glad you hammered through it all. I can t imagine. Hopefully the return to more shop time in a new shop brings you some new normal, new happiness, new peace.
-Steve
edit: just noticed you re in League City. We re “neighbors”, I m in Pearland.

- SawdustTX

Well howdy neighbor!

I have a brother in law in Pearland… please don’t hold that against me!

Consider we went through Harvey, her cat passing away, work stress, then the slew of family and friends passing away, the stress of mostly her Dads estate and the extended family drama that surrounded that, and then her getting hospitalized, and then her company laying her off, and mine giving us pay cuts… We were getting back on an even keel when COVID hit…

I am now digging in to getting into the new shop, but have a lot of projects to make it happen.

I am having to use alternative methods and materials to make the new building happen, but am confident I can make it happen…

I have descisions to make though. No small part of me wants to finish remodelling this house and selling, moving further inland, maybe out of HOU metro… Neither of us have parents here any more, and I am not going to move to where my mom lives, no jobs… Probably somewhere just west of Katy. Far enough away from taking it square on the jaw from Hurricanes, close enough we won’t lose touch with friends…

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