Random Musings #6: A follow-up on the new truck...even more depressing than payment.

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Blog entry by SSMDad posted 10-18-2011 10:57 AM 2129 reads 0 times favorited 11 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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Well, as fate would have it, 3 days after I got my “new” truck I was dismissed from my job. This all occurred after receiving my yearly eval. stating I did good work and was getting a modest pay increase for being a diligent labor bee. My son was ill the 2 days after Columbus Day (we were off because of the federal holiday) so I had to take off then, then had a Dr. appointment right in the middle of the day which I’d informed them about earlier.

Soooooo…what arrives via EMAIL yesterday was “separation” papers listing “Job Abandonment” as the reason. (Despite recently even being diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder Severe (with suicidal tendencies) and doing my job well even afterwards despite this). The last nail in the coffin is that Virginia is a right to work state meaning I basically have no recourse against the company and the way they worded it has set me up to not even be able to receive unemployment…..

Suffice it to say this is one of those times that (for me) heading out to the shop doesn’t help. Now I’m strapped with not only my mortgage but also this truck payment and potentially having to work at Lowes or HD until I can find another job in IT (which I really dislike anyway but it “paid” the bills).

Enough of my rambling…Just wanted to b** about it somewhere. (can’t even tell my wife or father yet). So if you don’t see me here anymore you’ll know what’s happened. I’ve enjoyed all your creations and bantor. You’re a good bunch of guys (in a non gender-specific use of the word).

-- Chris ~~Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past."

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#1 posted 10-18-2011 11:36 AM

Sorry to hear that… hope all works itself out…

-- Don't drink and use power tools @

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#2 posted 10-18-2011 01:48 PM

Sorry to hear that. You can still come around though as long as you have internet. Use the non-shop talk forum and it may help you to talk to other people.


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#3 posted 10-18-2011 01:49 PM

There is seldom such a trite thing as someone on the internet putting a link to a song in answer to a real life, serious problem. I am taking the chance, however, because this song has reminded me of things in the past, and has given me a second wind when I didn’t want another breath. Don’t give up, you have friends!

-- Wish I were Norm's Nephew

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#4 posted 10-18-2011 01:59 PM

Sorry to hear this Chris. I too hope all will work out for you, and you do have friends here. I’m reminded of the saying, “When one door closes, another opens”.

-- John from Hampstead

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#5 posted 10-18-2011 02:03 PM

as usual
has it’s own path for us

my prayer is
a new and better one

keep the faith

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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Roger Clark aka Rex

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#6 posted 10-18-2011 05:39 PM

Chris, that is some bad deal. I do hope you can manage to get through it.
Just remember, we are all here to give you any support we can, use us, you have plenty of understanding friends here.
I wish you the very best and sincerely hope you land on your feet. Don’t be a stranger.

-- Roger-R, Republic of Texas. "Always look on the Bright Side of Life" - An eyeball to eyeball confrontation with a blind person is as complete waste of Time.

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David Kirtley

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#7 posted 10-18-2011 09:04 PM

Last job I got laid off from was the best thing that ever happened to me. Even if it is not the root cause, if you are miserable in your job, it doesn’t make things better just because you get a paycheck.

Take the time to think seriously and decide if you are due for a change if the work is not healthy for you. I taught school for around 10 years. Some people just fall into it and it comes easily. It was always a struggle for me and kept me stressed out. Quite an unhealthy way to live.

Some people may disagree with me, but I have found that there is always work available for someone who wants to work. It may not be glamorous but I don’t expect to be on the cover of GQ either. Find some place that is ramping up for the holiday season for a temp job to keep the bills paid and spend a while deciding what direction you want to go and polishing up the resume and such.

Final thought:

As I was leaving one job that I quit, I said bye to someone in the parking lot as I was laving. She was really surprised and said “Oh my god, what will you do?” I looked back and said, “I’ll get another job. Just like I got this one.”

-- Woodworking shouldn't cost a fortune:

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#8 posted 10-19-2011 04:02 AM

My best friend’s philosophy about jobs is ” I was looking for a job when I found this one!”. Keep your chin up and something will come up. Meanwhile the Lowes / Home Depot can take up the slack.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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#9 posted 10-19-2011 06:44 PM

sorry to hear this and its always a great bummer when company´s formulate it
so you can´t receive unemployment :-( speciel when there is no reason to do it
I can´t tell you what to do since we have a totely different laws here and have
some possibillity´s to say we wont accept the firing papers unless they are re-written

but don´t give up .. there is always a way out and a new door to knock in :-)
and go asap to your wife and tell how it is , the sooner the better … I´m sure she already know
something is wrong … they always does

hope you find an interressting job fast

Take care

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#10 posted 10-23-2011 11:48 AM

Thanks for the encouragement guys. Things are looking up a bit now after telling the wife. She seems ok with it since our son will be able to stay home with me instead of having to go to daycare. I complained about the separation papers and they changed it to “excessive absenteeism” which with my Dr.’s notes allows me to qualify for unemployment until I can find another position. I just got out of the hospital yesterday where I’d been since Thursday and also found out I got a much better rate on the truck and monthly payments dropped by more than $100 so that’s a good thing.

Now, if I can just keep from hating on myself that would be another step forward.

Cheers and many thanks to you all!

-- Chris ~~Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past."

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#11 posted 10-23-2011 07:12 PM

thank´s for the update Chris
that was good news :-)
the last thing I can´t help you with :-)
other than smile to the mirror every morning and say laud …........I´m good as anybody

take care

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