Deep Thoughts - Reader Beware #9: Mere meanderings, or 'Stumpy's Trail of Tears'

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Blog entry by Sandra posted 11-18-2013 12:40 AM 1796 reads 0 times favorited 15 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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First, the caveat:

I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about woodworking, trying to make sense of what it is that has always drawn me to it. I’m notorious for over-thinking, overanalyzing and basically spending too much energy navel-gazing. This blog is intended to get some of it out of my head. I’ll be glib, sarcastic and flippant in my other posts. Who knows how this one will turn out. It may be a train wreck, so reader beware! If navel-gazing doesn’t hold any appeal or distraction for you, move on. If you’re allergic to estrogen, move away quickly.

My own personal rules are to not to spend more than 30 minutes on any one post. I can correct a mistake if I catch it right away, but can’t go back. If I post it, I can’t edit or delete. I tend to edit things to death and have been known to delete my posts before it’s too late.

If anything resonates with you, feel free to chime in.

A few weeks ago, there were some comments made about the ever changing group of people who frequent the Stumpy Nubs thread. Some of it was amusing, some of it was accurate and some of it was unnecessarily hurtful.
Here’s my own view of Stumpyland:

-If someone loses a family member, condolences are expressed, and then we move on. We all feel for the person, and their family, but from my own experience, it’s nice to be among friends and think about something else for awhile during a tragedy.

-If someone has cancer, heart disease or the like, they are not excused from ribbing, and good natured insults. With my own health issues, it’s nice to go somewhere where I don’t have to hear the simpering ‘how arrrrrrrre youuuuuu???” Yes I need to vent occasionally, and maybe that makes some non-Stumpy folks uncomfortable, but then I fully expect to be teased for my rant.

In other words, nothing is taken too seriously in Stumpyland although there is a unspoken level of respect. We all have good days, bad days and some really horrid days but we know we can go there and feel like Norm at Cheers.

We do talk about woodworking. And more woodworking, and then something about somebody having a barge, and then then one of the guys just built a Super Sucker, and Andy now owns a Woodmizer and we all hate him for that. Gary is usually on early in the morning, and he serves up the coffee.

Four years ago, a close family member lay dying. I would call him and tell him raunchy jokes. He would laugh so hard he’d wheeze. And then he’d ask me to call him again. He seemed to enjoy the break from the somber seriousness attached to dying in this society.

I guess what I’m rambling on about tonight is this – if you can forget your troubles by finding a group of people with whom you feel comfortable and accepted and who also make you laugh until the soda shoots out your nose, enjoy every minute of it. If you prefer to wax philosophical about stuff more substantial than Rex’s toilet habits, have at it. If you like to discuss miter accuracies to the .001 and then argue about why that’s not mathematically possible, all the power to you. And if your schtick is to find fault in other people’s coping mechanisms, then I guess that’s a coping mechanism in and of itself and I’m sure there are like-minded people for you too.

And all of that is right here on Lumberjocks.

Set the timer for the coffee Gary. I’ll be up early tomorrow.

And Randy – don’t stay up past your bedtime. A man your age needs his sleep.

If Stumpy’s thread is in fact a ‘Trail of Tears’ it’s because we laugh a lot. How hard do we laugh? Depends. (Get it? Depends…..?? Rex gets it.)

G’‘night John Boy

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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#1 posted 11-18-2013 12:48 AM

Depends, that the aged’s undergarment isn’t it? Thanks, Sandra,I enjoy a good humored ribbing and a laugh even on my bad/worst days; and they come more often than they use to.

-- Russell Pitner Hixson, TN 37343 [email protected]

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#2 posted 11-18-2013 01:16 AM

What time is my bedtime? With the clocks changing with DST, I’m all sorts of confused!!! Is it “spring back”, “fall behind” or what???

You did hit upon the essence of Stumpyland! Or was this your way of telling us that YOU are now sporting “Depends”???
Your thought provoking meanderings are always insightful and entertaining. Thanks for the “mental vacations”!

Please carry on….

-- Randy-- I may not be good...but I am slow! If good things come to those who wait.... Why is procrastination a bad thing?

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#3 posted 11-18-2013 01:50 AM

I must have missed the conversation about the riff raff in Stumpyland.
All I will say is this.
There are times I have thought of leaving Lumberjocks.
The few friends I have in Stumpyland though absolutely keep me coming back.


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Roger Clark aka Rex

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#4 posted 11-18-2013 02:29 AM

Sandra, what wonderful reading, I enjoyed all of it.
THE THREAD is a refuge for the crazy, funny, medically unfit and in general some really decent folks who you feel very comfortable telling your story, woes, blessings, tragedies and even wood working. It’s a really safe haven for all sorts of misfits.
I have found so many friends on THE THREAD, given taunters and jokers their medicine back in bucket loads – such a great warm feeling, even with 74 at times.:-)

Rock On

-- Roger-R, Republic of Texas. "Always look on the Bright Side of Life" - An eyeball to eyeball confrontation with a blind person is as complete waste of Time.

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#5 posted 11-18-2013 03:02 AM

nite Mary Beth she was a Walton ithink

-- Jesus Is Alright with me

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#6 posted 11-18-2013 03:07 AM

I think it was Mary Ellen, but it was Mary something for sure.

Jason, Mary Ellen, Ben, Erin, Jim-Bob, Elizabeth and John-Boy.

Rex – your dry Brit humour has caused me a few rushed trips to the loo…. Right back at you.

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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#7 posted 11-18-2013 03:09 AM

Handtooler – any time you want me to poke fun at your troubles, by all means let me know :)

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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#8 posted 11-18-2013 03:11 AM

Randy, bedtime is before you wake up to a show you didn’t fall asleep watching.

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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#9 posted 11-18-2013 03:19 AM


-- Jeff .... Minnesota, USA

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#10 posted 11-18-2013 05:22 AM

You really have a way with punctuation!!!

I better hit the pillow, before I end up watching reruns of something I would never have watched in the first place!!!

-- Randy-- I may not be good...but I am slow! If good things come to those who wait.... Why is procrastination a bad thing?

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#11 posted 11-18-2013 03:11 PM

Got here too late for the coffee, but the sky has a nice pink tint as the sun is finally starting to hit Lolo Peak
that is slowly becoming snow covered. The school buses have made their runs and the steady stream of
people off to join the rat race is starting to taper off. I will stumble off to the gym after the road clears up
and stop to pick up some wood & bolts need to finish some stabilizers needed because someone put a drain
in the middle of my shop floor and whenever I move a tool I have to readjust it to keep it from rocking. I
may resemble that remark somewhat. I have to take a short break because one of the two cats that the house belongs to has informed the staff that it is time for a belly rub, now that she is happy she can go outside and make sure the rodent population is properly thinned. I may have to hurry and finish my tool projects and start the Christmas wood gift production, cause once I start I will be able to procrastinate.
The leaves are composted and we are in that period of fall where you can see winter in the high country
all around us and it is still just a little cool in the valley, perfect hunting weather. It is almost perfect here
and Lumbejocks is like a friend’s workshop you can stop in and visit anytime and know you can find
someone to listen to for a while and maybe even get to put a word or two in. Hope you all have a
wonderful day.

-- As ever, Gus-the 80 yr young apprentice carpenter

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#12 posted 11-18-2013 03:35 PM

I’ve never watched Jim’s show or been on his forum but I say if it feels good go for it.

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Monte Pittman

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#13 posted 11-18-2013 04:45 PM

Those who don’t care for those forum topics should follow one rule, DON’T READ THEM! I do not understand why someone complains about a forum that they aren’t forced to read. There are several posters here that I generally don’t read because historically I am not interested in the conversation. I am an adult and I CHOOSE not to read them and then they don’t bother me.

Second rant, for those that don’t feel that we should make fun of each other or ourselves, please stay away from me. I am my favorite person to make fun of and if you can’t laugh at yourself then you take life too seriously for me. Everyone needs to enjoy what time we have.

I enjoy your posts Sandra because you never try to hide being human. It’s an admirable quality that too few people share.

-- Nature created it, I just assemble it.

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#14 posted 11-18-2013 06:32 PM

74, Did you paint the walls in here???

-- My mind is like lighting, one brilliant flash, then its gone.....

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#15 posted 11-19-2013 02:41 AM

Yes Marty, but not pink.

Bluepine, sounds like a glorious day.

Monte – thanks for that, very well said!

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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