Remembering my Dad...

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Blog entry by HandyGramps posted 12-20-2012 04:07 PM 1596 reads 0 times favorited 13 comments Add to Favorites Watch

I was thinking about my dad today, he passed away last year just before Christmas. He was 97 years old.

I miss him… As dads go, he wasn’t perfect. As sons go, neither was I…

He was a great dad though, he loved me unconditionally, it wasn’t until he was in his 80s that we could say “I love you” to each other. I always knew; a hug, a smile, a hand on my shoulder or just a look told me he loved me. In the end we always parted with a hug and an “I love you”. He always thanked us for coming to visit him.

He wasn’t my friend; he was my DAD, which is much more and stronger than a friend.

He was my teacher, always patient with me (a trait I struggle with my own son). He taught me that the idea of can’t wouldn’t cut it. He always found a way to get it done. That was the best lesson I could have learned in life, it has service me well in my profession. He told me this several times, “I am not rich, but I will teach you how to work so you can make your own way”

He was a good husband; he and my mom would have been married 74 years if my mom would have lived a few more months. They were high school sweethearts and married right after they graduated in 1933. They raised 5 kids.

As I read and view the projects here on Lumberjocks; most LJs are family oriented. We love to make things for our spouses, our grandkids, our parents, our friends, even community projects.

My dad wasn’t a woodworker in the same sense as most of us but he built 2 room additions on our house, built another bay on our garage. We lived in a small town and he was always called on if something needed fixed. He could fix anything. I remember him fixing an old overhead door on a fixer-upper house my wife and I bought. The bottom panel was falling apart and the door wouldn’t go up. He took it apart; made new parts from scrap wood he found nearby, straightened up the hardware and had it working great the same day.

My son has no interest in woodworking but my 11 year old grandson does. When we can, we piddle around in the wood shop making things. Last year we made a pinewood derby test track and several cars. We made a couple 4-H projects and I helped him make a few Christmas presents for his mom and grandma.

I realize the legacy I leave behind won’t be money or great success. It will be memories. I hope my children, grandchildren, friends and other family remember me as a good husband, a good dad and a good example. I’ve had 2 great teachers; my earthly dad and my Heavenly Father.

So, my fellow lumberjocks and lumberjills, keep up the good work. You have no idea how much I am inspired and incouraged by you all. I have built and made projects in the last year that I probably would not have tried before.

Peace and have a Merry CHRISTmas…

-- To stop learning is to stop living..... Be open to new things

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#1 posted 12-20-2012 04:35 PM

Very nice tribute to an obviously very good man. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

-- jay,

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#2 posted 12-20-2012 05:18 PM

Thanks for taking the time to write down your thoughts.

Merry Christmas to you & your family also.

Bill in MI

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#3 posted 12-20-2012 05:39 PM

Thank you Gramps
Today would have been my fathers 99th Birthday but he passed several years ago .As I read the first 6 or 7 paragraphs of your post I could have been the person placing this post. My feelings and relationship with my father was exactly as you state yours was with your father .I thank for your post and see it as a tribute to both our fathers. Many people wish they could have great fathers as we did, besides having a loving wife I count my relationship with my father as the greatest treasure of my life. I only wish I could achieve such a relationship with all of my children as I have had with my dear old dad.

Happy Birthday Dad!


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#4 posted 12-20-2012 05:55 PM

A truly inspiring story, I am very close to my Dad. He inspired me to love woodworking and carpentry.
I remembered the first project we made together when I was in 5th grade… a birdhouse. Every time
I make or repair something, I always do it with a smile on my face. No time anymore to make projects
of my own but very excited to see anybody’s work of art. Be proud of such skills and talent!

Merry Christmas!

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#5 posted 12-20-2012 06:58 PM

Thank you so much for sharing. Excellent words. Merry Christmas and may God’s peace fill the void left by your father.

-- Bob, Indiana, "Well done is better than well said." -Ben Franklin

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#6 posted 12-20-2012 07:02 PM

Very nice tribute. Thanks for sharing.

My Dad is still alive and is very similar – he would build, fix and repair anything. He’s slowing down now and that’s hard to watch. I still have the study desk he built for me.

Love your profile pic with Bo. We lost our Golden Retriever (Kelly) in July and she was a big cuddles like Bo seems to be. I miss her so much. (“Nothing like a boy and his dog”). Please hug Bo for me.

Very best wishes over the holidays!

-- Glen - Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

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#7 posted 12-21-2012 12:54 AM

very much enjoyed reading this. best wishes over the Holiday and thank you for sharing.

-- It is better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt.

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#8 posted 12-21-2012 01:05 AM

Very Nice story, I enjoyed it very much.
I lost my Dad on Feb, 15th 2012 and I miss him so much.
He was a woodworker and a wonderful man and father, I think of all the bad things I have done in my life and then think of all the times I learned from the bad things in life, all because of him!
Thank you so much, Merry CHRISTmas to you and yours!!!

-- Robert B. Sabina, Ohio.....

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#9 posted 12-21-2012 01:32 AM

This brought back a lot of memories of my Dad. Kinda got a tear in my eyes as I thought of him. He died in 2003 and was one so much like you said of your Dad. He was borne, raised and died a farmer. He was a fixer, a mechanic, a carpenter, a welder, an inventor of ways to get the job done and I learned most everything I know from him. Sometimes I don’t think there was anything he couldn’t do.

Thanks for the memories and Merry CHRISTmas to you and all the LJ’s out there.

-- Dewayne in Bainbridge, Ga. - - No one can make you mad. Only you decide when you get mad - -

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#10 posted 12-21-2012 02:16 AM

Thanks for introducing me to your Dad. May we all be remembered with such fondness and understanding.

Merry Christmas

-- No, I don't want to buy the pink hammer.

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#11 posted 12-21-2012 05:51 AM

Thanks for sharing your story with us. As Jim and others said, this could have been my dad. Dad just celebrated his 95th birthday last month. He and Mom (94) are still doing well. He has inspired me to be the same kind of do-it-yourselfer as he is. He has always been able to find a fix for any problem. Now that I am old, I am thankful that he practiced Proverbs 22:6, ”Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Blessings to you.


-- Voltaire: “Those Who Can Make You Believe Absurdities, Can Make You Commit Atrocities” There are 112 genders (not including male and female)

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#12 posted 12-21-2012 06:09 AM

Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story. I always wondered how my relationship with my dad would have been in later life and how would have liked my wife and his grandkids.

Unfortunately, he passed on July 15, 1981 when I was 23 and not a day goes by that I don’t think of him. He was a good and patient man with infinite wisdom, but only a fourth grade education. He had a hard life growing up and worked 16 hours days 6 days a week to make mine and my sister’s lives better than he could ever imagined growing up. Being a rebellious teenage dimwit, I sure didn’t make it any easier for him.

He was taken when he was just starting to take it easy and our relationship grew to something beyond what I had experienced in my teens. I miss him, I miss him very much.

Those of you that still have their dads, please don’t let a minute go by without expanding your relationship with him and cherish every moment. For those of you that lost your dads, I am truly sorry for your loss, but he lives in you.

I wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

-- ok, is it cut once measure twice, cut twice measure once???? I know....I'll just keep cutting until it's long enough.

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#13 posted 12-22-2012 04:15 PM

Very appropriate tribute. Thank you for sharing.
One of my first blog posts was a story about how Dad shaped my life:
He lived to 104 and died of “very old age” as stated on his death certificate!
Happiness to you and yours!

-- DanK All my life I've wanted to be someone. I see now I should have been more specific.

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