Neighbors being neighborly

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Blog entry by CFrye posted 07-17-2015 09:21 AM 2729 reads 0 times favorited 36 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Last month, hubby (Mudflap4869) had a deterioration in his health which resulted in several falls and eventual surgery for a ruptured disc in his neck and spinal fusion of C 6-7. The last fall was at home. We were headed out the door to go to the ER at the VA hospital when he fell down the last step to the ground.

He told me to go get our neighbors. I ran next door and beat on the door until I woke them up. It was 6am, on a Friday. Terry and his wife, Mitchie, came over and helped Jim into the car (Terry, and his crew, are the ones that built our current shop building after Old Man Winter crushed the old shop under I don’t know how much snow! Funded by the insurance settlement). While helping Jim into the car, Terry commented “You all need a ramp”. We agreed.

The VA did an MRI, diagnosed the problem and transferred him to St. John Hospital in Tulsa for surgery the next morning. LJ gfadvm and his wife offered a place for me to stay while Jim had surgery and recovered in the hospital. LJ Gary drove up from Texas to visit for a few hours the day after surgery.

Jim was transferred to a Skilled Nursing Facility closer to home after a few days to continue to heal and receive physical and occupational therapy. He was scheduled to be there 20 days.

I talked to Terry about the aforementioned ramp. Showed him a sketch

of what we had in mind and he said he’d get back to me.
While waiting to hear from him, I pretended to know what I was doing and drove some stakes in the ground at approximate locations and strung some twine.

Well, Terry is an officer in the local VFW, and convinced them to help a fellow veteran and pay for half the materials! Terry, himself a hoarder in the very best sense, volunteered to supply some of the materials and all the help.
Saturday, two days before Jim was to come home, Terry, his wife, Mitchie, son, Adam and his son Ian, started building and digging post holes and setting posts.

The next day, Terry and Mitchie returned with son, Brian and friend, Scott to finish placing the deck boards and the top of the hand rail.

^^^Scott and Brian using speed squares to equally space the decking boards.

^^^Terry, trimming the posts.

The new, almost complete, ramp. Another rail, halfway up the posts will be added, for safty, and a concrete ‘approach’(?) was poured on Tuesday. I’ll post more pics when it’s finished. I couldn’t post this in projects because Terry wouldn’t let me do anything! Mitchie, either, so we picked up cut offs and tried to not get in the way.

I can’t say enough about these folks that helped us get through this ordeal. Neighbors being neighborly, from right next door, to another town, to another state, and all those on line that have been pulling for us. Thank you each and everyone.
Mudflap is home and recovering. Raring to try out that ramp with his new walker and then without it. It’s hard for me to hold him back! Thanks for reading along.

-- God bless, Candy

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#1 posted 07-17-2015 10:19 AM

Super friends you have Candy, and great there are LJ’s “nearby” for support as well.
Glad to hear Mudflap is mending, that’s been quite a road for you all !

-- Glen, B.C. Canada

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Sheila Landry (scrollgirl)

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#2 posted 07-17-2015 10:29 AM

I am so happy that he is on his way back to good health, Candy. What wonderful friends you have, too! You are always such a kind and encouraging person, I am sure that you would do the same for them as well.

All my best to you and your husband. I am so happy that all is working out. ((HUGS)) Sheila

-- Designer/Artist/Teacher. Owner of Sheila Landry Designs ( Scroll saw, wood working and painting patterns and surfaces. "Knowledge is Power"

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#3 posted 07-17-2015 10:44 AM

Hey Candy, great to hear about all the good people out there…..and most notably YOU! So glad to here that Jim is on mend.

-- Jeff .... Minnesota, USA

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#4 posted 07-17-2015 10:54 AM

Wonderful account of how vets can and often do help each other. They did a great job and it looks like Jim will be zipping in and out of the house with ease. OK, zipping may be the wrong word. Please shake Terry and his family’s hands and tell them thank you from another vet.

-- Chris ** If there must be trouble, let it be in my day, that my child may have peace. — Tom Paine **

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Dave Rutan

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#5 posted 07-17-2015 11:04 AM

Sorry to hear of Mudflap’s accident, but it’s good that you have such neighbors, and that Mudflap’s raring to go.

-- Ni faru ion el ligno!

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#6 posted 07-17-2015 11:09 AM

I am glad that your neighbors and friends stepped up and helped. I think this is the way God intended us to treat each other. All my prayers for a speedy recovery for Jim and strength for you during this time of extra stress.

-- "I love it when a plan comes together" John "Hannibal" Smith

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#7 posted 07-17-2015 11:20 AM

Candy your neighbors did and outstanding job building that ramp! Wish hubby a speedy recovery.

-- Bill

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Jim Jakosh

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#8 posted 07-17-2015 11:29 AM

Hi Candy. Sorry to hear about Jim health problems. I never knew he was a Lumberjock too.
I wish him a full recover so he can be in that shop of yours!!
Those are REAL friends. They sure cam out to help and did a fine job for you guys!!
A friend in Need is a friend Indeed!

Cheers, Jim

-- Jim Jakosh.....Practical Wood Products...........Learn something new every day!! Variety is the Spice of Life!!

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#9 posted 07-17-2015 11:53 AM

Glad Jim is home and on the mend.
Great that you’ve good friends & neighbors.
Karma, karma, karma….

-- Randy-- I may not be good...but I am slow! If good things come to those who wait.... Why is procrastination a bad thing?

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#10 posted 07-17-2015 12:16 PM

Yaaaay!! Would hate to have Jim feeling tied down

-- Beka/Becky - aspiring jill of all trades, still learning to not read the directions.

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Monte Pittman

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#11 posted 07-17-2015 12:37 PM

Nice to know there are a few of those type left. Hope everything is better in the future.

-- Nature created it, I just assemble it.

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Don Broussard

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#12 posted 07-17-2015 12:49 PM

I couldn’t help but smile as I read the neighborly story. It helped me start my day off right! Way to go to all who helped with labor, materials and hospitality.

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!

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#13 posted 07-17-2015 12:50 PM

It’s good to see good people helping out. Sorry to hear about the health troubles but wishing a speedy recovery.

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#14 posted 07-17-2015 01:03 PM

Thanks for the encouraging account of Friends and neighbors and friends being just what I would expect .
This used to be the way things where but too much has changed in society and to hear you tell this wonderful story is giving me hope that many good friends and neighbors are still out there .
Give Jim my best wishes for a speedy recovery and to take it easy for a bit .

Take care and all the best


-- Kiefer

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#15 posted 07-17-2015 01:41 PM

Candy, I am glad to see y’all got the ramp done in the heat. Those are some great neighbors to get out in this weather and pitch in to help y’all. Give Jim my regards.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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