Mine own annus horribulus.

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Blog entry by BigTiny posted 03-03-2021 10:30 AM 689 reads 0 times favorited 9 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Greetings my fellow LumberJocks. It has bben ages since I was last here, and there are several reasons for my being MIA.

Firstly, my wife of nearly 50 years was hospitalized for over a year with complications of diabete4s. They ent her home on January 5th two yeaqrs ago. A half hour after her erriving, I was doing CPR on her while waiting for the aqmbulance. She never regained conciosness. Left me in a total funk to say the least.

Second. I made the mistake of picking up a free bookcase headboard for thee bed, Cost me several grand to get rid of the bedbugws it came with.

As if this wasn’t enough. while the missus was in hospital. I ended up there too for a couple of weeks witha ranaway kidney infection that nearly killed me, When I got home, I found we had been brioken in on. They must have noticed there was nobody home. as they took their time and took everthing of any value, and what they left behind they smashed. Guess who had been forced to let their home insurance lapse due to financiaL troubles,,, We estimate we lost over $50K all told, They even managede to take43 my Honda Goldwing. even though it was parked in a foot and half of snow and had the front wheel locked, The cops figure it took at le3ast three guys to move it. if not more,

EVERY tool I owned was gone from the3 smallest screwdriver to the tablesaw, My wife had left her best jewelry thaat she usually wore all the timre at home as she was affraid it would be stolen in the howspital as there haqd been a number of such thefts lately, Ironic. eh,,,

It has been a long time since I was able to face even my closest friends, Hopefully this will be a small step in the right direction, 75 years old this year and all alone, Ain;t life great,,,


-- The nicer the nice, the higher the price!

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#1 posted 03-03-2021 02:25 PM

Sorry for the loss of your Wife, that is a hard one to get over.
It is too bad that some miscreants, (assholes) had to take advantage of your misfortune and steal everything of value from you. I don’t have the words of comfort in my vocabulary to make one feel better about their situation, all I can say is try to think more positive and think of this time as a new beginning for your life.

It sounds as if it can’t get any worse, so it stands to reason that it can only get better now, just don’t give up.

Hope all works out for you.

-- Smitty!!!

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#2 posted 03-03-2021 05:59 PM

So sorry for you! Sounds like you’ve lost everything you care for.
Wish there was something I could say or do to ease your pain and sorrow. But words won’t change anything.
My prayers and best wishes to you…
Hope you can find strength to carry on.
Cherish what you have left and look ahead with hope…Jack…

-- mtnwild (Jack), It's not what you see, it's how you see it.

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#3 posted 03-03-2021 06:53 PM

Paul, so sad to read your story! I can’t imagine what you’re feeling… Here’s hoping you continue “one day at a time” to take small steps towards a new normal that brings you peace. And maybe, someday, happiness.

-- Don't anthropomorphize your handplanes. They hate it when you do that. - OldTools Archive -

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#4 posted 03-03-2021 07:04 PM

Annus Horribilis indeed! I sure hope things improve for you. My condolences on the loss of your wife.

-- Steven.......Random Orbital Nailer

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#5 posted 03-03-2021 07:47 PM

I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your wife and other misfortunes. I wish you the strength to pull through to a better time in the future.

-- "Join the chorus if you can. It'll make of you an honest man." - I. Anderson

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#6 posted 03-03-2021 08:44 PM

If you didn’t live so far away in another country, I’d invite you over.

-- I intended to be a woodworker, but turned into a tool and lumber collector.

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#7 posted 03-05-2021 02:54 AM

I am sorry to hear your story. I’m glad you had 50 years with your wife. I’m hoping we can reach that far. Good luck.

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#8 posted 03-07-2021 02:20 PM

Hi Paul,
So sorry for your loss.
As if that was not enough, life can be so endlessly cruel sometimes, it sure ain’t fair.
Just the fact you find the energy to write us, is a big step and something to be proud of.
For all the stolen things… This got to hurt, but all I can say to comfort, is try to see it as a new start. When I got sick and had to retire, I also had sell all I owned, just over ten years ago, I would never had imagined, that I would end up with the life I have today. Back then I sold all my tools, my two houses and every thing, that could not fit into a two room apartment. (was left with my old Vespa scooter, no one stole that ;-) ).
For me it was a big sadness, but it ended up being a fresh start and the beginning of my woodworking journey.
So best advice is grab a pocket knife and start carving, then you will need sandpaper… and so the story starts all over again.
All my best thoughts,

When I feel heavy, I like to read this one:
“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.”
Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Remember all the joys, especially of your wife and let go of all the troubles.

-- MAD F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect.

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#9 posted 03-09-2021 03:56 PM


If you would let us know… Have you been able to replace some of your tools?

You know, most of us have too many tools, so maybe we could arrange a tool shower.

I’m packing a box. Just give the word (and the address).

You were doing some turning. Have you been able to get yourself some kind of lathe?

-Paul (in Alabama, USA)

-- I intended to be a woodworker, but turned into a tool and lumber collector.

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