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04-26-2008 01:05 PM

Topic tags/keywords: breast cancer

Most of you don’t know but over the past year and a half my wife has been dealing with breast cancer. Yesterday she went for the reconstruction and it looks like it went well. She now has 6 weeks of recovery and we will be done with this. Since Martin asked us not to dive to deep in to the deitys we each decide to talk to, I wont go into how much I appreciate “said deity’s” help <grin>.

Knowing what we know now about the process of reconstruction (much worse than home repair ;) we would not do to it again (opt to not have reconstruction) but I will revisit it at the end of this and see if I still feel the same, I am sure they wont.. (that was funny, but bad – forgive me ladies :)).

If anyone here comes up against this situation please feel free to reach out to me. It was a hard road and I didn’t have anyone I knew that went through this from the man’s side.

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

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#1 posted 04-26-2008 02:13 PM

I hope your wife does well, sir!

-- Have a blessed day!

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#2 posted 04-26-2008 03:04 PM

Snowdog, a few years back the wife had a scare that eventually turned out for the good. But, I know I felt totally helpless and useless. There was nothing I could do but sit with her and wait for the numerous test results. Having to watch a loved one go through an ordeal like this can be extremely stressful. I’m glad that things appear to be moving in a positive direction. There are others like you out here, if only to lend a willing ear.

-- Working at Woodworking

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#3 posted 04-26-2008 03:39 PM

We’ll pray her recovery goes well.

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#4 posted 04-26-2008 05:07 PM

I hope all goes well.. and you are right, we often forget the agony the “other” goes through as he/she tries to support the one going through the actual situation.
Best wishes to all the family and friends

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (, Young Living Wellness )

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#5 posted 04-26-2008 05:22 PM

So sorry to hear and hope everything goes well. My very best wishes to your wife and wish her a speedy recovery.

-- Praki, Aspiring Woodworker

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#6 posted 04-26-2008 08:33 PM

My prayers and thoughts go out to your wife and family. May she have a speedy recovery.

God Bless

-- Mc Bridge Cabinets, Iowa

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#7 posted 04-26-2008 08:48 PM

I have a friend that went through the re constructive surgery and both she and her husband were very happy with the results. I’m confident that this will also be the case for you. God bless. -SST

-- Accuracy is not in your power tool, it's in you

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#8 posted 04-26-2008 10:10 PM

Keep your wits, your hopes and your dreams alive – you must truly believe she will be fine and your liove will grow closer.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage.” Lao Tzu

Prayers go out and best wishes for a speedy and successful recover.

-- Bill - - Ad-Marketing Guy, Ramsey NJ

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#9 posted 05-03-2008 08:27 PM

I can tell from being the person with the cancer, that the support you can give your wife is worth more than any care the doctors can give.
Hang in there!
I’m not sure where you live but there are a number of support groups for the caregivers. I live in the Seattle area and we have a organization here called Cancer Lifeline, if you go there you will find links to groups in your area.
Are prayers are with you.

-- Taigert - Milan, IN

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#10 posted 05-03-2008 08:41 PM

Snowdog. My prayers are with you and your wife. The Almighty Lord can provide help and assistance in your time of need.

God Bless you brother.

-- I've been blessed with a father who liked to tinker in wood, and a wife who lets me tinker in wood. Appomattox Virginia †

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#11 posted 05-04-2008 06:48 AM

I’m brand new here and I have limited-at-best WW skills, so not much WW to share. However, I do have my own life experiences.

My darlin’ wife went in for a “fairly routine” 2-hour cancer operation. Not your wife’s problem, but bad. When she came out 7 hours later the first thing the doctor said was “We can’t save your wife. She’s got less than sixty days to live.”

I can assure you, that will get your attention and ruin your day. However, that was in April … 1996. She completed her annual check-up last week and, as every time before, no recurrance or other problems of any kind. CA-125 = 18. You (or better yet, your wife) can call or write any day if you’d like. I happen to be overseas right now but I’m pretty sure she’s in the garden about now, which is where I should be (or in the shop) and will be when I get home and re-retire.

I need no reassurance about whether said deity exists.

Truly, it’s all good. PM if you’d like.


-- Chuck, Cottage Grove, Oregon --

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#12 posted 05-04-2008 02:18 PM

I just had a big hunk of my face removed from melanoma. It is a scary thing and then again it really puts things in perspective for you and brings you back where you belong. It reminds you that the house doesn’t matter, the 2 vehicles don’t matter, tools and all the toys, the quad, the gear all that, the boat. None of it matters. What matters is my wife, my kids, my grandkids, my brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews and their kids, most of all my diety matters to me again. I am closer to God then I’ve ever been in my life,and my wife and kids, I’ll tell you what 8 days in the hospital gives you more time to think than you need. But it sure opened my eyes. Or should I say slapped me in the face. God be with your wife, you both are in my thoughts and prayers, I for one, know what you two are going through. God Bless you both. mikr

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

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#13 posted 05-04-2008 03:15 PM

It has been 8 days since the surgery and all things are looking well. She is in a little pain from the stitches but compared to last year this is pretty easy. The one drain (last year it was 3 drains so this is much easier) was pulled last week and as I said all things look good and she is in good spirits from being on the other side of it all.

Thanks you all for your kinds words, thought and prays. A few more weeks and I’ll have her washing the floors <giggle>, yeah right .. more like she will have me washing them :)

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

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#14 posted 05-04-2008 03:41 PM

Ya gotta love good news. Good for you and good for her.

-- Working at Woodworking

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